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NewTubers - The Premiere Small Content Creator Community
2012.07.19 00:30 SliceOfChalk NewTubers - The Premiere Small Content Creator Community
You're a YouTube Video Creator or Twitch Streamer? NewTubers is the Premiere "Small Content Creator" Community, created to allow up-and-coming channels to improve with resources, critiques, and cooperation among tens of thousands of peers! We teach you how to Start, Build, and Sustain your Content Career!
2019.12.04 15:10 The-Planetarian hololive production
The official hololive production subreddit! What is hololive production? We're a team of content creators using digital avatars providing outstanding entertainment to the masses! We specialize in songs and music, but more often than not, will just stream games or chat with our fans! Posts not made by the official administrators are not characteristically representative of hololive production, nor any of the talents.
2014.02.07 03:23 SaucyFingers Closer In Time
A place to share interesting comparisons of the timing of world events.
2023.06.06 17:14 Transorted_321 Trying to process it all..
I am awaiting my official ASD diagnosis but I know what’s coming. I’ve known for a while and avoided getting tested because it brings up so many uncomfortable emotions. Mostly, anger and sadness. I am reeling from how it’s possible that it’s taken 40 years for someone to recognize my ASD traits. Life has been so hard for me, so painful and difficult to navigate, and I’m sad and angry that I’ve been in so many therapists offices - even as a child - and nobody, not one person, remotely picked up on it. It took my partner who has been raising neurodivergent children to gently start bringing it up with me.
At first, I was so offended that I pushed back on her suggestions hard. Without any previous knowledge or learning of ASDs, it felt like she was saying I was defective. Now, I realize that many of the people I connect with most and like the most are on the spectrum. They (we) are beautiful humans.
ASD explains so much about my history, my patterns of immense struggles in traditional school and work/cubicle environments. My difficulty in building and maintain friendships. My crushing discomfort and stress in busy, loud, crowded places. My isolated behaviors. My social anxiety. My emotional outbursts that I know are irrational but can’t seem to stop during stress. My incessant daydreaming and how off balance I feel when I can’t have my time to daydream in private. My anxiety and panic during times of change/transition. My rewatching the same movies for comfort rather than watching new ones. My obsessive researching. My stimming. My difficulty with and having to teach myself how to offer and receive physical touch in relationships. The list goes on.
I have beaten myself up since I can remember for “what’s wrong with me.” I have internalized all of it, going from therapist to therapist, picking apart every small and big trauma, thinking I could just fix the way I seem to be wired with enough hard work. I’ve learned really good skills along the way and have somehow managed to mask enough to be extremely successful professionally, but I’ve clawed my way here on my hands and knees.
I’m so tired. Chronically tired. I don’t know how to process that a formal diagnosis is probably coming soon - one that doesn’t have a “fix.” What’s kept me going all these years is believing that with enough work and healing, my struggles in this world would get better. I don’t know where to turn for community and support for all of this except here.
Are there some good books, podcasts, or other resources for adults on the autism spectrum you would recommend? I need some hope and connection.
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At first, I was so offended that I pushed back on her suggestions hard. Without any previous knowledge or learning of ASDs, it felt like she was saying I was defective. Now, I realize that many of the people I connect with most and like the most are on the spectrum. They (we) are beautiful humans.
ASD explains so much about my history, my patterns of immense struggles in traditional school and work/cubicle environments. My difficulty in building and maintain friendships. My crushing discomfort and stress in busy, loud, crowded places. My isolated behaviors. My social anxiety. My emotional outbursts that I know are irrational but can’t seem to stop during stress. My incessant daydreaming and how off balance I feel when I can’t have my time to daydream in private. My anxiety and panic during times of change/transition. My rewatching the same movies for comfort rather than watching new ones. My obsessive researching. My stimming. My difficulty with and having to teach myself how to offer and receive physical touch in relationships. The list goes on.
I have beaten myself up since I can remember for “what’s wrong with me.” I have internalized all of it, going from therapist to therapist, picking apart every small and big trauma, thinking I could just fix the way I seem to be wired with enough hard work. I’ve learned really good skills along the way and have somehow managed to mask enough to be extremely successful professionally, but I’ve clawed my way here on my hands and knees.
I’m so tired. Chronically tired. I don’t know how to process that a formal diagnosis is probably coming soon - one that doesn’t have a “fix.” What’s kept me going all these years is believing that with enough work and healing, my struggles in this world would get better. I don’t know where to turn for community and support for all of this except here.
Are there some good books, podcasts, or other resources for adults on the autism spectrum you would recommend? I need some hope and connection.
2023.06.06 17:14 horsebycommittee /r/studentloans and /r/PSLF will go dark on June 12th to protest Reddit's API changes intended to kill 3rd party apps
BLUF: This is actually a big deal, even if you don't use third-party apps or old.reddit. Many moderators and power users (including myself) use them almost exclusively. Third-party apps are also essential for redditors with accessibility needs and the tools created by third-party developers indirectly support much of the content and community growth that has made reddit what it is. We would much rather keep the subs open and running while reddit reverses its plans -- going dark is the most visible form of protest we have available.
Dear /studentloans and /PSLF community:
Moderators of many subs across reddit -- big, medium, and small -- will be "going dark" (setting the subs to private and making them inaccessible to read or post) starting on June 12th. /studentloans and /PSLF will be joining them.
This is not a decision we take lightly -- we recognize the value of these subs as a hub for advice and discussion of important topics that more than 300,000 of you have found helpful during your respective student loan journeys. We have never before taken these subs down in protest and we only do so now because we believe the changes that reddit is planning to make will threaten the long-term health of the community itself. We're going dark temporarily to hopefully prevent a permanent deterioration and death of the community.
On May 31, 2023, Reddit announced it intends to raise the price to make calls to the API from being free to a level that will kill every third-party mobile app on reddit, from Apollo to Reddit is Fun to Narwhal to BaconReader to the app I've used for years to post and moderate on-the-go, Sync.
Even if you're not a mobile user or don't use any of those apps, this is another step toward killing ways of customizing Reddit, such as Reddit Enhancement Suite, Toolbox, Pushshift-enabled tools, and the use of the old.reddit.com desktop interface. Again, even if you don't use these tools yourself, the moderators of this sub do and they are essential for our work. The same is true of the mod teams in many, many other communities and that's why we're all speaking out now.
The latest figures reddit has released show that 3 out of every 5 mod actions across the site are done on Old Reddit, even after years of stagnant development for the interface. Why? Because it's still better for moderating with the help of third-party tools. The same is true for the third-party mobile apps -- they remain so popular and beloved because, for many people, they are better than reddit's immature and bloated official app. (Which itself started as a third-party app that was bought by reddit.) And aside from direct use, many moderators (including us) depend on tools and bots only available outside the official app to keep our communities on-topic and spam-free.
The reddit you see and enjoy today stands on the shoulders of years of work by third-party developers, many of whom are also fans of the site, saw an unmet need, and wrote a program/script/app to meet it. Third-party apps and tools are essential for redditors who need accessible interfaces. For example, the /blind community is joining the protest because reddit's official app lacks accessibility features that vision-impaired redditors have enjoyed from third-party apps for years. (Reddit knows that this change will effectively excommunicate blind users from mobile reddit and is pressing forward anyway.)
During this blackout period, the subreddits will be set to private, rendering them inaccessible to all users. This collective action is intended to raise awareness and urge Reddit to reconsider the recent API changes. Our primary goal is to initiate a productive dialogue with reddit, leading to a reversal of the detrimental modifications before they are implemented.
We understand that this blackout will cause temporary inconvenience to our community and, for that, we apologize. However, we firmly believe that this short-term disruption will bring long-term benefits for every user. By standing together with other subreddit communities, we hope to send a clear message to reddit and foster a meaningful conversation about the future of its API policies. This isn't something we do lightly; we are taking this action because we love this service, have devoted thousands of volunteer hours into moderating and curating the community into what it has become, and we truly believe this API change will make it impossible to keep doing what we love.
Thank you,
horsebycommittee and ANGR1ST
submitted by horsebycommittee to StudentLoans [link] [comments]
Moderators of many subs across reddit -- big, medium, and small -- will be "going dark" (setting the subs to private and making them inaccessible to read or post) starting on June 12th. /studentloans and /PSLF will be joining them.
This is not a decision we take lightly -- we recognize the value of these subs as a hub for advice and discussion of important topics that more than 300,000 of you have found helpful during your respective student loan journeys. We have never before taken these subs down in protest and we only do so now because we believe the changes that reddit is planning to make will threaten the long-term health of the community itself. We're going dark temporarily to hopefully prevent a permanent deterioration and death of the community.
What's going on?
A recent Reddit policy change threatens to kill many beloved third-party mobile apps, making a great many quality-of-life features not seen in the official mobile app permanently inaccessible to users.On May 31, 2023, Reddit announced it intends to raise the price to make calls to the API from being free to a level that will kill every third-party mobile app on reddit, from Apollo to Reddit is Fun to Narwhal to BaconReader to the app I've used for years to post and moderate on-the-go, Sync.
Even if you're not a mobile user or don't use any of those apps, this is another step toward killing ways of customizing Reddit, such as Reddit Enhancement Suite, Toolbox, Pushshift-enabled tools, and the use of the old.reddit.com desktop interface. Again, even if you don't use these tools yourself, the moderators of this sub do and they are essential for our work. The same is true of the mod teams in many, many other communities and that's why we're all speaking out now.
The latest figures reddit has released show that 3 out of every 5 mod actions across the site are done on Old Reddit, even after years of stagnant development for the interface. Why? Because it's still better for moderating with the help of third-party tools. The same is true for the third-party mobile apps -- they remain so popular and beloved because, for many people, they are better than reddit's immature and bloated official app. (Which itself started as a third-party app that was bought by reddit.) And aside from direct use, many moderators (including us) depend on tools and bots only available outside the official app to keep our communities on-topic and spam-free.
The reddit you see and enjoy today stands on the shoulders of years of work by third-party developers, many of whom are also fans of the site, saw an unmet need, and wrote a program/script/app to meet it. Third-party apps and tools are essential for redditors who need accessible interfaces. For example, the /blind community is joining the protest because reddit's official app lacks accessibility features that vision-impaired redditors have enjoyed from third-party apps for years. (Reddit knows that this change will effectively excommunicate blind users from mobile reddit and is pressing forward anyway.)
What's the plan?
In response to this situation, the moderators of /StudentLoans and /PSLF are joining forces with other subreddit communities and their respective mod teams in a coordinated effort. We believe that unity is essential in driving change and advocating for the rights of app developers, moderators, and the overall user experience. To amplify our message and demonstrate the strength of our concerns, /StudentLoans and /PSLF will be participating in a temporary blackout starting on June 12th, lasting for 48 hours.During this blackout period, the subreddits will be set to private, rendering them inaccessible to all users. This collective action is intended to raise awareness and urge Reddit to reconsider the recent API changes. Our primary goal is to initiate a productive dialogue with reddit, leading to a reversal of the detrimental modifications before they are implemented.
We understand that this blackout will cause temporary inconvenience to our community and, for that, we apologize. However, we firmly believe that this short-term disruption will bring long-term benefits for every user. By standing together with other subreddit communities, we hope to send a clear message to reddit and foster a meaningful conversation about the future of its API policies. This isn't something we do lightly; we are taking this action because we love this service, have devoted thousands of volunteer hours into moderating and curating the community into what it has become, and we truly believe this API change will make it impossible to keep doing what we love.
What can you do?
- Complain. Message the mods of /reddit.com, who are the admins of the site. Message reddit. [Email Reddit](mailto:[email protected]) or submit a support request ticket to communicate your opposition to their proposed modifications. Comment in relevant threads on /reddit, such as this one. If you've tried the official iOS or Android app, leave an honest review and also review your favorite third-party app while you're at it. And sign your username in support to this post.
- Spread the word. Rabble-rouse on related subreddits. Meme it up, make it spicy, get your cat involved! Suggest anyone you know who moderates a subreddit join /ModCoord and /Save3rdPartyApps (but please don't pester mods you don't know by simply spamming their modmail).
- Boycott and spread the word...to reddit's competition! Stay off Reddit entirely on June 12th through the 13th -- instead, take to your favorite non-reddit platform of choice and make some noise in support!
- Don't be a jerk. As upsetting this may be, threats, profanity and vandalism will be worse than useless in getting people on our side. Please make every effort to be as restrained, polite, reasonable, and law-abiding as possible.
Thank you,
horsebycommittee and ANGR1ST
2023.06.06 17:14 Tia_Hime Can I be a lesbian if I am not interested in/attracted to men romantically even if I think I was in the past? Or am I bi and confused?
Sexual context will not be mentioned as I am ace/don't want sex with men, nor can I imagine myself having sex with a man to pleasure him even if I loved him (which I may be willing to do with a non man/woman.)
In the past (when I was thirteen and under) I have had crushes on a few men (at least one, the others were probably squishes or just wanting to be friends). However I've always felt repulsed by these men to a certain extent and never wanted to actually date them (though tossing the idea around in my head could be fun). For as long as I can remember, I've never actually wanted to date a man (though I thought i did at some point) and whenever it came to imagining who i would marry or date, I have always imagined women/non men. And IRL I always tell people I'm lesbian because I never want a man to approach me romantically but I have this rooted belief that maybe someday I'll meet some man who can reach my unrealistically high standards (spoiler: they can't.) which women meet effortlessly in the far future and so maybe I'm not exclusively attracted to non men.
One of the main reasons I'm hesitating to use the label, though, is because nearly all of my 'notable' crushes that I'm aware of have been on men (like 3-4 in total including the squishes). They share a few things in common: behaving slightly better than the other men surrounding them (ie not being blatantly homophobic/transphobic), us having one or two common interests, and not being an asshole to me. I've still been at least a bit grossed out by them and knew i could never have a fulfilling relationship with them, though, as well as liking the idea of them rather than the real them.
And if i looked at it with my arospec perspective (I am greyaromantic) it makes so much sense that I had strange 'crushes' on guys but never really wanted to be with them, while yearning for women so badly but never actually developing a proper romantic bond/attraction to any as far as I'm aware (despite wanting to).
Recently I realised that me feeling giddy/butterflies standing close to any men (none of them were my crushes strangely) was actually just nervousness/anxiety + the fact that I never felt real attraction to any of them and just didn't want to be near them. Where as with women I'm so much more comfortable even with physical contact which I normally despise.
I don't trust the lesbian masterdoc i have seen passed around quite often since I believe the creator out as bi later on even though my lesbian qpp (who knows he is a lesbian 100%) relates to it a lot, so I want to consult people that may be more experienced with the matter. Google isn't helpful either for the most part. So is it just deeply ingrained comphet (bc to me liking women is the easiest part of all of this) or could I just be bi?
Additional context: I don't have any notable trauma involving men (excluding the weird comments/sexual harassment most women are made to deal with regularly), but over time I realised how shitty most men are (through IRL and online) and it's really hard for me to find a man IRL i don't feel an ick towards.
My lesbian qpp has also told me that 'your crushes barely feel like crushes' and 'this feels like comphet' but didn't tell me until I brought up the possibility of me being a lesbian.
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In the past (when I was thirteen and under) I have had crushes on a few men (at least one, the others were probably squishes or just wanting to be friends). However I've always felt repulsed by these men to a certain extent and never wanted to actually date them (though tossing the idea around in my head could be fun). For as long as I can remember, I've never actually wanted to date a man (though I thought i did at some point) and whenever it came to imagining who i would marry or date, I have always imagined women/non men. And IRL I always tell people I'm lesbian because I never want a man to approach me romantically but I have this rooted belief that maybe someday I'll meet some man who can reach my unrealistically high standards (spoiler: they can't.) which women meet effortlessly in the far future and so maybe I'm not exclusively attracted to non men.
One of the main reasons I'm hesitating to use the label, though, is because nearly all of my 'notable' crushes that I'm aware of have been on men (like 3-4 in total including the squishes). They share a few things in common: behaving slightly better than the other men surrounding them (ie not being blatantly homophobic/transphobic), us having one or two common interests, and not being an asshole to me. I've still been at least a bit grossed out by them and knew i could never have a fulfilling relationship with them, though, as well as liking the idea of them rather than the real them.
And if i looked at it with my arospec perspective (I am greyaromantic) it makes so much sense that I had strange 'crushes' on guys but never really wanted to be with them, while yearning for women so badly but never actually developing a proper romantic bond/attraction to any as far as I'm aware (despite wanting to).
Recently I realised that me feeling giddy/butterflies standing close to any men (none of them were my crushes strangely) was actually just nervousness/anxiety + the fact that I never felt real attraction to any of them and just didn't want to be near them. Where as with women I'm so much more comfortable even with physical contact which I normally despise.
I don't trust the lesbian masterdoc i have seen passed around quite often since I believe the creator out as bi later on even though my lesbian qpp (who knows he is a lesbian 100%) relates to it a lot, so I want to consult people that may be more experienced with the matter. Google isn't helpful either for the most part. So is it just deeply ingrained comphet (bc to me liking women is the easiest part of all of this) or could I just be bi?
Additional context: I don't have any notable trauma involving men (excluding the weird comments/sexual harassment most women are made to deal with regularly), but over time I realised how shitty most men are (through IRL and online) and it's really hard for me to find a man IRL i don't feel an ick towards.
My lesbian qpp has also told me that 'your crushes barely feel like crushes' and 'this feels like comphet' but didn't tell me until I brought up the possibility of me being a lesbian.
2023.06.06 17:14 Low_Tailor_5752 Our relationship has ended but the thoughts and anxiety still won't leave me alone
Am I going to experience this forever? The reason I started developing mt-ocd was because in the first 1-4 months of my relationship, things were really stressful because I am anxiously attached and always had really strong fears of not being good enough, him leaving me for someone else, or him throwing me away/abandoning me.. Because of that, I always get thoughts and really strong anxiety about every little thing that often has no relation to him. My brain set up so many rules that made it so I wasn't allowed to be happy or be at peace. If I don't pick the one on the left always he would chose someone else, if I do something more than once I have to do it 5 more times. If I throw something away I'd get intrusive thoughts that he'd throw me away or I'd be throwing him away, I couldn't ever pick the answers "A" or "B" on a test, every time I saw something feminine online it would give me anxiety and I'd have to click "not interested " on them as well as on every video I saw, I'd have to block every profile I saw that seems like the type of person he would like or somehow some spiritual being that was living ordering me to be my head was going to bring people like those people into his life and take him from me if I didn't. I have to block my friends and not message them for uncomfortable periods of time, I couldn't pet my dog because she was a girl, my cat makes me highly uncomfortable, it controls every single thing I do and when I've tried to break from it yesterday as we broke up it did not work out.
I would do any number of these compulsions for him, but the anxiety has been wearing me to death. I don't know why my brain can't let me have peace, just because I'm "not used to it. "
Yesterday we broke up. Dating is not the biggest deal in the world, even though I really believed his promise that we could be together forever. When our relationship was so stressful, it led to us breaking up around 5 times, and this is our 6th and I believe the last. It wasn't due to a fight or me being incompetent, he just told me that he lost feelings for me. At that point, I was either dissociating too much or trying strongly to will things to be better but I felt really happy and free. I tried to hold up the feeling I had to ignore the compulsions, that I didn't have to listen to them anymore because he wasn't mine anymore and I lost my romantic regard for him at that point.
I did a lot of the things I couldn't do. I tried to stop counting. I didn't open and close the door in the same way. I didn't perform my normal routines I've been doing for 3 months. I deleted a lot the stuff my brain told me I had to keep or else something bad would happen. I didn't clear my search history and go through 80 more videos to close the app. I didn't retype something 4 times when I messed up once, I pressed the volume up button without counting, I could type any number of letters as long as I just stopped myself from counting....
All these things sound really stupid but doing them over and over everyday take me so much time and causes me so much stress when I have to do things perfectly or else I'd somehow lose him.
But a bit later I gave up, it started telling me again as I was very stressed I'd lose him as a friend that if I did certain things I could get him back, so I started doing them again. I kept counting in my head, it changed the numbers again. I have to use the sequence "1, 4,8,14" and I can no longer leave things off on one or something bad will happen to our friendship and make him leave me forever..
I really cannot handle it anymore. I don't know what I should do. I'm really sick of following life through some made up beings rules in the anxiety that it could happen. I am sick of not being able to live my own life when it's all I've ever wished to do.
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I would do any number of these compulsions for him, but the anxiety has been wearing me to death. I don't know why my brain can't let me have peace, just because I'm "not used to it. "
Yesterday we broke up. Dating is not the biggest deal in the world, even though I really believed his promise that we could be together forever. When our relationship was so stressful, it led to us breaking up around 5 times, and this is our 6th and I believe the last. It wasn't due to a fight or me being incompetent, he just told me that he lost feelings for me. At that point, I was either dissociating too much or trying strongly to will things to be better but I felt really happy and free. I tried to hold up the feeling I had to ignore the compulsions, that I didn't have to listen to them anymore because he wasn't mine anymore and I lost my romantic regard for him at that point.
I did a lot of the things I couldn't do. I tried to stop counting. I didn't open and close the door in the same way. I didn't perform my normal routines I've been doing for 3 months. I deleted a lot the stuff my brain told me I had to keep or else something bad would happen. I didn't clear my search history and go through 80 more videos to close the app. I didn't retype something 4 times when I messed up once, I pressed the volume up button without counting, I could type any number of letters as long as I just stopped myself from counting....
All these things sound really stupid but doing them over and over everyday take me so much time and causes me so much stress when I have to do things perfectly or else I'd somehow lose him.
But a bit later I gave up, it started telling me again as I was very stressed I'd lose him as a friend that if I did certain things I could get him back, so I started doing them again. I kept counting in my head, it changed the numbers again. I have to use the sequence "1, 4,8,14" and I can no longer leave things off on one or something bad will happen to our friendship and make him leave me forever..
I really cannot handle it anymore. I don't know what I should do. I'm really sick of following life through some made up beings rules in the anxiety that it could happen. I am sick of not being able to live my own life when it's all I've ever wished to do.
2023.06.06 17:13 virtual-avatar reframing growth [chat]
i’m trying to move away from self-idealization to understanding myself more as programming. growing up, people would talk about life as a journey. they’d say, “what’s your life story?” i have nothing against life stories. but isn’t it weird watching an entire genre of ted-talkers with unreal testimonies, or college essays that demand to know why you’re an exact fit? these self-idealizations with no loose ends might say more about the culture than the person. how accurate are these self-concepts anyway? is life really that linear? are you really “a totally different person” after x event? can we really attain #INSANE #GROWTH AND #PRODUCTIVITY AND #MENTAL BOOSTS BY FOLLOWING X PERSON’S #10 ESSENTIAL DAILY HABITS?
are we instead just a complex combination of brain signals and patterns formed by love, trauma, and everything in between? in other words, are we just programming? someone made fun of you in grade school. you felt embarrassed and ashamed. those feelings manifested in specific behaviors that we still enact today.
rather than linear growth, where the value assignment is pass/fail, i’m starting to view growth through the lens of “reprogramming.” there’s less shame in it i think.
27M
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are we instead just a complex combination of brain signals and patterns formed by love, trauma, and everything in between? in other words, are we just programming? someone made fun of you in grade school. you felt embarrassed and ashamed. those feelings manifested in specific behaviors that we still enact today.
rather than linear growth, where the value assignment is pass/fail, i’m starting to view growth through the lens of “reprogramming.” there’s less shame in it i think.
27M
2023.06.06 17:13 Excellent-Put7462 How Do I Fix My Friendship?
I’m hoping you ladies here can help me. (Men too but it’s mainly a mothers perspective I need or someone who’s been through similar) I’ve had a best friend now for 10+ years and for the most part it’s been smooth sailing thankfully. We’ve always bounced off each other as we’re both pretty honest/straight forward. This last year she got pregnant - delighted for her! Was there for her as much as I possibly could be. However there were times during it she snapped at me for things and was downright hateful. But, I obviously didn’t take it personally, she’s going through pregnancy, the toughest thing a woman can go through. The baby is now here, I’ve been out with her loads of times to visit, brought food so she didn’t have to cook, brought baby things, brought her things, offered to take the baby for an hour while she slept etc etc. Everything seemed back to normal. But I still feel like she has this ‘grudge’ against me? I’m always first to reach out & ask her how she is but it’s never reciprocated. And another example was recently I organised a party for her & she never broke breath to me the whole time I was there, I took a panic attack and went home. I didn’t tell her about this as I didn’t want to ruin the memory of her party. I haven’t heard anything from her since as I decided I’m taking a step back as I’m obviously not getting back what I’ve been putting in. But I don’t know if I should keep trying and just put it down to potential hormone balancing after the baby? Thing is she seems fine with everyone else and I just have been wracking my brains for what I’ve maybe done, and I genuinely am at a loss. It’s really getting me down and making me so anxious. I don’t want to lose her as a friend but also kind of nervous to bring it up because she’s a new mother. And I know her conflict style is super defensive rather than just owning her own stuff. I’m not a mother and I don’t ever plan to be one so I have no idea the reality of what she’s maybe going through and wondering is it PND but somehow, I’m the person she’s taking it out on? Help would be great.
TL;DR! Friend has changed her attitude towards me during pregnancy and becoming a mother. How do I approach it and improve it?
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TL;DR! Friend has changed her attitude towards me during pregnancy and becoming a mother. How do I approach it and improve it?
2023.06.06 17:13 Obvious_Rip_5305 Introducing Crypto Football Legends: a collection of 100 NFTs of the greatest football players in the world
 | Hello, everyone! I am the creator of Crypto Football Legends, a NFT project that pays tribute to the 100 greatest football players in history. Each NFT is a unique and exclusive digital art, inspired by the paper sticker albums that marked the childhood of many football fans. You can see some examples below: submitted by Obvious_Rip_5305 to NFT [link] [comments] https://opensea.io/collection/cryptofootballlegends https://preview.redd.it/tvpbvy2fye4b1.png?width=975&format=png&auto=webp&s=3068126fa94bea6a403133e13c50e8c20a4b026a The NFTs are for sale on OpenSea, the largest NFT marketplace platform in the world. There you can see all the details of each NFT, such as the player’s name, the position he played, the nationality, etc. You can also make offers and negotiate with other collectors. Crypto Football Legends is more than a collection of NFTs. It is a way to celebrate and preserve the legacy of the great idols of world football, who marked generations with their skills and achievements. It is also an opportunity to invest in a scarce and valuable digital asset, which can appreciate even more in the future. If you are a fan of football and NFTs, don’t miss this chance to be part of this story. Visit OpenSea and get your favorite NFT before it runs out. And don’t forget to follow our reddit to stay on top of news and promotions. Thank you for your attention and see you soon! |
2023.06.06 17:13 TomBirkenstock How Do You Teach What Popular Historical Texts Are Trustworthy?
There's a lot of historical non-fiction out there written by journalists and amateurs rather than professional historians. I would guess that most popular history books are not written by actual historians, in fact. My question is about how this affects your pedagogy as teachers of history. Students will leave your class and desire to learn more about history, but they might come across poorly written and sourced non-fiction historical books. What do you do in your classes to teach students what secondary sources are trustworthy and which ones aren't? And do you think popular history written by non-historians are worthwhile for the general public?
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2023.06.06 17:13 cinderellastoryboard New Septic and Leach Field Qs
Hello- looking for some opinions on a septic system that is being installed at a house we agreed to buy with the condition that the seller’s permit to completely update and replace the septic system is closed and completed (we did not have to ask the seller was just doing it when we offered).
My questions surround the fact that the tank seems to be buried and finished by there is a huge cement cap about 6 inches off the ground sticking out of the only remaining small piece of flat back yard. From my experience most septic cement caps like that (my parents included) are subterranean and under like 1 ft to 4 inches of soil. Is it normal that this cap is exposed in this way? Can I ask them to bury it? I do see some type of junction box next to the cap also that I don’t know that I have seen before. Is this some new system that needs to be above ground?
Additionally, there are some adjacent leach fields installed which have a grading slope increase of about 4 ft over them. What landscaping restrictions do I have with regard to plantings in and around that raised leach field? Does it have to be grass or gravel only? Is one better than the other?
Thank you in advance to all the homeowners or experts willing to give their feedback on the process
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My questions surround the fact that the tank seems to be buried and finished by there is a huge cement cap about 6 inches off the ground sticking out of the only remaining small piece of flat back yard. From my experience most septic cement caps like that (my parents included) are subterranean and under like 1 ft to 4 inches of soil. Is it normal that this cap is exposed in this way? Can I ask them to bury it? I do see some type of junction box next to the cap also that I don’t know that I have seen before. Is this some new system that needs to be above ground?
Additionally, there are some adjacent leach fields installed which have a grading slope increase of about 4 ft over them. What landscaping restrictions do I have with regard to plantings in and around that raised leach field? Does it have to be grass or gravel only? Is one better than the other?
Thank you in advance to all the homeowners or experts willing to give their feedback on the process
2023.06.06 17:12 oopcantsayso read his journal don’t know what to do now
i’m not proud of my actions of looking at his journal and am ashamed but i understand that this is because of self preservation and codependency issues that i’m working on.
i’ve been seeing this guy for a little while. we started out casual/ fwb. he said he didn’t want to be in a relationship. i respected that and kept it in mind. as time went on he has invested more and making it feel like we were dating. he was the one initiating the increase intimacy. i bought up it was uncomfortable to me to be fwb and act this way. i wanted the label to be on the same page as the behavior. i said it was okay if he didn’t want something more serious but i’d have to remove myself from the situation because it wouldn’t be healthy.
i thought the conversation went well and we seemed to be on the page and became more exclusive. he seemed to be there for emotionally in some ways and seemed to be investing more. but i couldn’t help but feel like something was off. i didn’t know if it was in my head or not. i have a lot of trauma from a past relationship and am mistrusting of people so i wanted to know what he thought and read his journal.
evidently i talked him into wanting to be exclusive even though i just said these are my feelings if yours don’t match that’s okay but this isn’t for me then. also he is in love with a friend of his but isn’t acting on these feelings. he’s talked a lot of shit about this friend to me and now i don’t know that to feel. i just didn’t realize he felt so different than he acts.
i feel slightly like a clown because i thought that i meant something to him because he really acted like that but obviously his feelings are different. I know i shouldn’t have read this because it’s an invasion of privacy but it was eye opening. i know if i continue seeing him i have to give him the benefit of disregarding it but i feel like I should probably end it. it just makes me feel like he’s using me for sex because we started out as fwb. i thought that he saw me as a person or someone of interest in addition to sex. but i guess i was wrong.
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i’ve been seeing this guy for a little while. we started out casual/ fwb. he said he didn’t want to be in a relationship. i respected that and kept it in mind. as time went on he has invested more and making it feel like we were dating. he was the one initiating the increase intimacy. i bought up it was uncomfortable to me to be fwb and act this way. i wanted the label to be on the same page as the behavior. i said it was okay if he didn’t want something more serious but i’d have to remove myself from the situation because it wouldn’t be healthy.
i thought the conversation went well and we seemed to be on the page and became more exclusive. he seemed to be there for emotionally in some ways and seemed to be investing more. but i couldn’t help but feel like something was off. i didn’t know if it was in my head or not. i have a lot of trauma from a past relationship and am mistrusting of people so i wanted to know what he thought and read his journal.
evidently i talked him into wanting to be exclusive even though i just said these are my feelings if yours don’t match that’s okay but this isn’t for me then. also he is in love with a friend of his but isn’t acting on these feelings. he’s talked a lot of shit about this friend to me and now i don’t know that to feel. i just didn’t realize he felt so different than he acts.
i feel slightly like a clown because i thought that i meant something to him because he really acted like that but obviously his feelings are different. I know i shouldn’t have read this because it’s an invasion of privacy but it was eye opening. i know if i continue seeing him i have to give him the benefit of disregarding it but i feel like I should probably end it. it just makes me feel like he’s using me for sex because we started out as fwb. i thought that he saw me as a person or someone of interest in addition to sex. but i guess i was wrong.
2023.06.06 17:12 worriedgirl03 Is EVERYONE skinnier than me or am I just seeking it out?
It’s so crazy bc, while I’m certainly not underweight, I’ve lost an arguably significant amount of weight and I am quite a small dress size. Still, though, it seems like every single person I see is just so. Much. Skinnier. I’m not sure if it’s the “body dysmorphia” or if I’m looking for these skinny girls on purpose to trigger myself but everytime I see a girl I can’t help but wonder their bmi or dress size (not consciously I promise. It’s a horrible habit I’ve developed and always try to stop) and I always assume it’s leagues lower than mine (bc well … it looks like it) and I’m just like. How is it Everyone.
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2023.06.06 17:12 o_cha22 Nightmare…
 | They really need to add an extra level of security for purchases. I’ve just accidentally purchased the T rex Gen 2 for 30,000 DNA. I had 30,098 DNA total. Feel like my team is now overpowered and unbalanced. I have just unlocked the Panthera. Maybe sell it when hatched… submitted by o_cha22 to JurassicWorldApp [link] [comments] |
2023.06.06 17:12 BigfootSanta Devil’s Footsteps and Not to be Trifled With questions
(This is a long post with examples, so check out the TL;DR at the bottom if you don’t want to read all of it)
Hey! I ran an impromptu solo Score for one of my players, who made a Lurk. He was robbing the mansion of his noble rival, and managed to acquire the safe. Upon learning there was a window nearby, he wanted to throw the safe down and then do a tumble out using Devil’s Footsteps to land safely (the text explicitly states it can be used to “tumble safely out of a three-story fall”, which is what this was).
However, you have to Push Yourself to activate Devil’s Footsteps. The problem was that nothing in this scene seemed like it would require a roll, so there was nothing to Push to activate the ability.
He went with another plan, but thinking about it now, do you really need to have an action roll to be able to activate those special abilities? Like, can you just Push Yourself, taking the 2 stress, and activate the special ability? It’s strictly worse than if it was actually part of a roll, since you’re not gaining the regular Push benefits, and it makes 100% sense to me, but I really don’t see anything in the text that confirms or denies this.
Similarly, he ran into two guards on his way out. He wanted to Prowl to sprint across the courtyard and get over the fence to outrun them. He Pushed himself on this roll, and activated the other feature of Devil’s Footsteps: Maneuvering so that two enemies attack each other (explained as him running between their swords and ducking so they hit each other). I was confused on how to rule this; it was previously a Risky/Standard roll (and Standard was enough to escape), but now that he maneuvered to make his enemies attack each other as he runs, what happens now? They’d be pretty slowed down and injured, so obviously increased P&E at the least, but I was especially conflicted on what a consequence would be.
He got a 6, so it didn’t matter, but this is a case where I feel like I shouldn’t have made him go through with the roll after he activated Devil’s Footsteps; Risky/Standard was already enough to escape the courtyard, so that special ability probably negated the need to roll at all (both in the fiction and mechanically), since there was very little danger and uncertainty, but I’m also not sure if I can straight up “uncall” a roll if someone activates a special ability that would get rid of the need for it.
I mentioned Not to be Trifled With in the title because I have a Cutter with the ability and it’s pretty similar. So, in their case, if they were fighting someone, and they wanted to Skirmish with them, and then they Pushed and activated the ability and wanted to “bend a metal weapon with their bare hands” as part of the Skirmish, what would I do? This situation indicates to me that yes, you can Push to activate a special ability without an action roll, because otherwise they’d have to roll something unrelated (like Skirmish when their goal isn’t to Skirmish) and then push to do what they actually want to do, when it makes a lot more sense if they can just do their action (grabbing the weapon) and then after the roll Push and declare their ability and use it rather than it being a secondary effect of an unrelated roll.
TL;DR: 1. Can you Push Yourself to activate a special ability without having a roll to actually push yourself on? 2. If an activated special ability basically renders a roll pointless, but you’ve already called for the roll, can you “uncall” it because the situation has changed?
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Hey! I ran an impromptu solo Score for one of my players, who made a Lurk. He was robbing the mansion of his noble rival, and managed to acquire the safe. Upon learning there was a window nearby, he wanted to throw the safe down and then do a tumble out using Devil’s Footsteps to land safely (the text explicitly states it can be used to “tumble safely out of a three-story fall”, which is what this was).
However, you have to Push Yourself to activate Devil’s Footsteps. The problem was that nothing in this scene seemed like it would require a roll, so there was nothing to Push to activate the ability.
He went with another plan, but thinking about it now, do you really need to have an action roll to be able to activate those special abilities? Like, can you just Push Yourself, taking the 2 stress, and activate the special ability? It’s strictly worse than if it was actually part of a roll, since you’re not gaining the regular Push benefits, and it makes 100% sense to me, but I really don’t see anything in the text that confirms or denies this.
Similarly, he ran into two guards on his way out. He wanted to Prowl to sprint across the courtyard and get over the fence to outrun them. He Pushed himself on this roll, and activated the other feature of Devil’s Footsteps: Maneuvering so that two enemies attack each other (explained as him running between their swords and ducking so they hit each other). I was confused on how to rule this; it was previously a Risky/Standard roll (and Standard was enough to escape), but now that he maneuvered to make his enemies attack each other as he runs, what happens now? They’d be pretty slowed down and injured, so obviously increased P&E at the least, but I was especially conflicted on what a consequence would be.
He got a 6, so it didn’t matter, but this is a case where I feel like I shouldn’t have made him go through with the roll after he activated Devil’s Footsteps; Risky/Standard was already enough to escape the courtyard, so that special ability probably negated the need to roll at all (both in the fiction and mechanically), since there was very little danger and uncertainty, but I’m also not sure if I can straight up “uncall” a roll if someone activates a special ability that would get rid of the need for it.
I mentioned Not to be Trifled With in the title because I have a Cutter with the ability and it’s pretty similar. So, in their case, if they were fighting someone, and they wanted to Skirmish with them, and then they Pushed and activated the ability and wanted to “bend a metal weapon with their bare hands” as part of the Skirmish, what would I do? This situation indicates to me that yes, you can Push to activate a special ability without an action roll, because otherwise they’d have to roll something unrelated (like Skirmish when their goal isn’t to Skirmish) and then push to do what they actually want to do, when it makes a lot more sense if they can just do their action (grabbing the weapon) and then after the roll Push and declare their ability and use it rather than it being a secondary effect of an unrelated roll.
TL;DR: 1. Can you Push Yourself to activate a special ability without having a roll to actually push yourself on? 2. If an activated special ability basically renders a roll pointless, but you’ve already called for the roll, can you “uncall” it because the situation has changed?
2023.06.06 17:11 Padbluetiger Difficulties ordering from Unbound Merino and Wool & Prince
As part of the clothes I take with me, I have three t-shirts, three boxers, five pairs of socks, all merino wool.
All needed replacing, worn out.
I ordered five pairs socks from Unbound Merino.
I told them not to put me on any mailing lists.
I was assured this would not happen.
In due course all told I was added to four mailing lists.
The socks are superb, the best I would say I've seen in my life, but I've given up ordering from UM for now.
For t-shirts, I turned to Wool & Prince.
I tried ordering these one before, about two years ago. I paid 35 USD for fast international delivery, by Fedex. The package arrived, Fedex did not notify me, and returned it to W&P. There was no time to re-order, as I then left for Ukraine, and W&P do not ship to UA.
So now I try again. The only other shipping option is normal, slow, 15-30 days, UPS/USPS, but the order has been placed and they seem to be on the way.
Having had that success, I tried then to order boxers.
Turns out for orders under 135 GBP, W&P have to estimate UK tax, add it on, and charge you that, which I do not want.
They suggested the EU site.
I tried to order, but the site is broken : if the billing address is in Gibraltar (I've not tried other countries), there is no text field for the post-code, and the order is failed because the billing post-code is wrong.
Unexpectedly, despite the order failing, the money for the order is still taken from your account.
So I've managed one order each from two companies, and now I need to find a third company to try and get boxers.
My general take on ordering on-line is that if your billing address matches your shipping address and your bank card is in the same country, it works. Other than that, generally not.
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All needed replacing, worn out.
I ordered five pairs socks from Unbound Merino.
I told them not to put me on any mailing lists.
I was assured this would not happen.
In due course all told I was added to four mailing lists.
The socks are superb, the best I would say I've seen in my life, but I've given up ordering from UM for now.
For t-shirts, I turned to Wool & Prince.
I tried ordering these one before, about two years ago. I paid 35 USD for fast international delivery, by Fedex. The package arrived, Fedex did not notify me, and returned it to W&P. There was no time to re-order, as I then left for Ukraine, and W&P do not ship to UA.
So now I try again. The only other shipping option is normal, slow, 15-30 days, UPS/USPS, but the order has been placed and they seem to be on the way.
Having had that success, I tried then to order boxers.
Turns out for orders under 135 GBP, W&P have to estimate UK tax, add it on, and charge you that, which I do not want.
They suggested the EU site.
I tried to order, but the site is broken : if the billing address is in Gibraltar (I've not tried other countries), there is no text field for the post-code, and the order is failed because the billing post-code is wrong.
Unexpectedly, despite the order failing, the money for the order is still taken from your account.
So I've managed one order each from two companies, and now I need to find a third company to try and get boxers.
My general take on ordering on-line is that if your billing address matches your shipping address and your bank card is in the same country, it works. Other than that, generally not.
2023.06.06 17:11 philonik I’ve worked with hundreds of UGC creators and here’s exactly what I tell them to land their first UGC gig! (With NO experience)
Getting your first UGC gig is the hardest part. All brands want to see previous work, but if you’ve never done this before how do you prove you can do it? Here’s a simple 3 step plan to landing your first paid gig…
Step 1 - Create A Portfolio
Every brand is going to ask to see your portfolio. A showcase of your previous work. You can use a range of online tools to create your portfolio. I’ve seen creators use website builders, Canva or even a PDF. There’s no right or wrong tool as long as it covers some simple points.
Step 2 - Be Active On Social Media
Building a social media presence is essential but time consuming. If you don’t have much time, start on Twitter. Use it as a journal to document your UGC. Keep it realistic and share any of your learnings.
If you include the hashtag #UGCCreator #UGC in your profile or username you’ll likely attract more brands.
Step 3 - Join A Discovery Network
Step 1 & 2 are both great but there’s actually a much simpler way to land gigs easily. I use a tool called GotContent.io In simple terms, it’s a directory of UGC jobs posted by brands but under the surface it’s much more than that.
As a UGC creator you create an account and fill in your details. Be as specific as you can here otherwise you won’t see relevant job listings. Once your profile is complete you will be shown a list of UGC jobs that match your attributes (age, gender, interest etc…) This saves hours of scrolling through Twitter to find jobs that you fit the requirements for. You click the apply button and are directly connected with the brand. No third-party taking a cut of your fee.
It’s also super handy because you are given your own portfolio page which can be sent to any prospective brands to showcase you.
Hope these come in handy and if you have any questions feel free to drop me a message…
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Step 1 - Create A Portfolio
Every brand is going to ask to see your portfolio. A showcase of your previous work. You can use a range of online tools to create your portfolio. I’ve seen creators use website builders, Canva or even a PDF. There’s no right or wrong tool as long as it covers some simple points.
- Show videos of your UGC work
- Display your rates
- Provide contact details
Step 2 - Be Active On Social Media
Building a social media presence is essential but time consuming. If you don’t have much time, start on Twitter. Use it as a journal to document your UGC. Keep it realistic and share any of your learnings.
If you include the hashtag #UGCCreator #UGC in your profile or username you’ll likely attract more brands.
Step 3 - Join A Discovery Network
Step 1 & 2 are both great but there’s actually a much simpler way to land gigs easily. I use a tool called GotContent.io In simple terms, it’s a directory of UGC jobs posted by brands but under the surface it’s much more than that.
As a UGC creator you create an account and fill in your details. Be as specific as you can here otherwise you won’t see relevant job listings. Once your profile is complete you will be shown a list of UGC jobs that match your attributes (age, gender, interest etc…) This saves hours of scrolling through Twitter to find jobs that you fit the requirements for. You click the apply button and are directly connected with the brand. No third-party taking a cut of your fee.
It’s also super handy because you are given your own portfolio page which can be sent to any prospective brands to showcase you.
Hope these come in handy and if you have any questions feel free to drop me a message…
2023.06.06 17:11 bellasky75_ TW childhood SA -Prayers for a Period
I (26F) am vague on my abuser as I have yet to go public with this information. I don’t really know what good it would do at this point, and I don’t know if I want to go public with it.
Prayers for a Period
Once I was educated on periods and fertility at the end of the fourth grade, I consistently prayed for it to come. Not because I wanted to become a child mother. It was because I thought, maybe then, he would stop raping me. Maybe if I was in any way able to get pregnant from him, he would loose interest in me.
It was summer, 11 going on 12 years old, and bored as hell in the grocery store with my mom. For whatever reason I decided to make a detour to the restroom. An overwhelming sense of relief washed over me, my period came. I was fueled by hope and happiness. I really thought he would loose interest in me and I would finally be safe. What a silly, innocent, childish hope. I couldn’t be more wrong. It went on till I was 13, till he was no longer a threat living inside the same home as me.
It only happens when no one else is home, and it only happens in the shower. It didn’t matter if I locked the door to shower, he could pick the lock. I went through a gross kid phase because of this.
I try not to remember the details. I actually feel really unattached to my child self, I’m not sure if that is a good or bad thing at this point. I guess I will take it over trauma-pissing myself almost every day. The specialists couldn’t figure out why I couldn’t hold it, why, as an adult, I was pissing my pants again. Until I finally broke my silence about my years of sexual abuse.
I didn’t tell a soul. Not until I was 25. I had many therapists up to this point, but I wasn’t ready to talk about it any sooner. When I told her, she kind of broke-up with me in a way. She did not specialize in trauma therapy, and she did assist in finding me someone who did. Someone who specializes in EMDR therapy.
EMDR stands for eye movement desensitization and reprocessing. I highly suggest it to anyone dealing with overwhelming trauma. I still utilize practices from that therapy, even though I wasn’t able to do it for very long due to loosing my job with medical insurance. I could no longer afford the sessions.
I believe I have done the most growing just in this last year, after finally reaching out for help to resolve the trauma. I can’t say it is resolved. I can say I feel like my current state is the healthiest I’ve been probably in my entire life. I know there’s some room for improvement, but I feel really good about where I’m at. Year 26 was overall good to me, I’m excited to see what year 27 brings for me, I am less than a month away from my birthday!
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Prayers for a Period
Once I was educated on periods and fertility at the end of the fourth grade, I consistently prayed for it to come. Not because I wanted to become a child mother. It was because I thought, maybe then, he would stop raping me. Maybe if I was in any way able to get pregnant from him, he would loose interest in me.
It was summer, 11 going on 12 years old, and bored as hell in the grocery store with my mom. For whatever reason I decided to make a detour to the restroom. An overwhelming sense of relief washed over me, my period came. I was fueled by hope and happiness. I really thought he would loose interest in me and I would finally be safe. What a silly, innocent, childish hope. I couldn’t be more wrong. It went on till I was 13, till he was no longer a threat living inside the same home as me.
It only happens when no one else is home, and it only happens in the shower. It didn’t matter if I locked the door to shower, he could pick the lock. I went through a gross kid phase because of this.
I try not to remember the details. I actually feel really unattached to my child self, I’m not sure if that is a good or bad thing at this point. I guess I will take it over trauma-pissing myself almost every day. The specialists couldn’t figure out why I couldn’t hold it, why, as an adult, I was pissing my pants again. Until I finally broke my silence about my years of sexual abuse.
I didn’t tell a soul. Not until I was 25. I had many therapists up to this point, but I wasn’t ready to talk about it any sooner. When I told her, she kind of broke-up with me in a way. She did not specialize in trauma therapy, and she did assist in finding me someone who did. Someone who specializes in EMDR therapy.
EMDR stands for eye movement desensitization and reprocessing. I highly suggest it to anyone dealing with overwhelming trauma. I still utilize practices from that therapy, even though I wasn’t able to do it for very long due to loosing my job with medical insurance. I could no longer afford the sessions.
I believe I have done the most growing just in this last year, after finally reaching out for help to resolve the trauma. I can’t say it is resolved. I can say I feel like my current state is the healthiest I’ve been probably in my entire life. I know there’s some room for improvement, but I feel really good about where I’m at. Year 26 was overall good to me, I’m excited to see what year 27 brings for me, I am less than a month away from my birthday!
2023.06.06 17:11 volarisbg How NOT to build a minimum viable problem
For the past couple of years, we’ve worked with multiple founders to help bring their SaaS ideas to life. We also started a few companies ourselves. Building a minimum viable product and validating your idea is never an easy process even when you know what to expect. And yet we see a lot of founders falling into the same pitfalls every single time.In this post, we want to want to explore the 3 most common mistakes founders make when thinking about their MVP and give some guidance on how you can avoid them.
Wait, who am I building for again?
As founders, sometimes coming up with an idea is the most difficult part of the process. You might try to find a problem by browsing an online community like Reddit, for example. You do a bit of research, you speak to a few people and hallelujah, you've got your idea! It’s time to build the MVP.While this might be a completely valid way of building a SaaS, you risk falling into pitfall #1 - building for a market that you don’t understand. Or even worse, you could be solving a problem that doesn’t exist. As a founder, who is building a software tool for a set of people, you are essentially a tool maker. You are creating a tool that aims to make the workflow of a specific person more efficient. And yet, you don’t really understand the workflow - how can you, when you’ve never done it yourself? Conversations with people within the market might help, but they won’t paint the full picture.When working with clients, we’ve seen this problem a lot. Most founders think highly of their idea, so convincing them to take a step back and evaluate their target market is difficult. A method we like to use is providing clients with a Notion document containing a few probing questions about the audience they are trying to target. While it might require a bit of initial time investment to fill in, it encourages the person to sit down and think if they know who they are building this MVP for. Questions can vary, but here are a few examples:
Who is your target audience?
Can you give us a rough description of a user you are targeting? This can include age, gender, demographics, and interests.
As long as it works...
When building an MVP, the priority naturally falls on the product's functionality. I mean if it doesn’t work, then what’s the point? This shouldn’t, however, come at the cost of a clean user interface and a clear user experience. There have been many experiments out there that draw a connection between a good UX/UI design and higher user engagement. How many times have you gone to a website, and just wondered if they somehow used ChatGPT to generate it? Neglecting the design of your MVP can prevent users from properly adopting your product and engagement will undoubtedly suffer. No user engagement means no user feedback. And no user feedback means you are forced to go back to the drawing board and forget about that holiday in Bali.You don’t have to be a UI designer to have a clear and coherent website. It’s never been easier to go to a platform like Dribbble and hire someone to help you out. If paying someone is not an option, then you can check the many component and template libraries available out that can also help you out.Again the goal here is not to be a Linear or a Stripe. The goal is to provide the user with a straightforward experience of solving their problem without them having to sit back and think about how to take the next action on your website.ConclusionThe process of validating an idea is not an easy one, but avoiding common pitfalls like these can greatly increase your chances of success. And if you need any help bringing your idea to life, at Simple Suite, we are always here to help.
Article: https://www.simplesuite.co/blog/how-not-to-build-a-minimum-viable-product
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Wait, who am I building for again?
As founders, sometimes coming up with an idea is the most difficult part of the process. You might try to find a problem by browsing an online community like Reddit, for example. You do a bit of research, you speak to a few people and hallelujah, you've got your idea! It’s time to build the MVP.While this might be a completely valid way of building a SaaS, you risk falling into pitfall #1 - building for a market that you don’t understand. Or even worse, you could be solving a problem that doesn’t exist. As a founder, who is building a software tool for a set of people, you are essentially a tool maker. You are creating a tool that aims to make the workflow of a specific person more efficient. And yet, you don’t really understand the workflow - how can you, when you’ve never done it yourself? Conversations with people within the market might help, but they won’t paint the full picture.When working with clients, we’ve seen this problem a lot. Most founders think highly of their idea, so convincing them to take a step back and evaluate their target market is difficult. A method we like to use is providing clients with a Notion document containing a few probing questions about the audience they are trying to target. While it might require a bit of initial time investment to fill in, it encourages the person to sit down and think if they know who they are building this MVP for. Questions can vary, but here are a few examples:
Who is your target audience?
Can you give us a rough description of a user you are targeting? This can include age, gender, demographics, and interests.
- What is the problem you are solving? + Why is it a problem?
- What value will your target audience get from this solution?
- There is no way I can launch without this!
As long as it works...
When building an MVP, the priority naturally falls on the product's functionality. I mean if it doesn’t work, then what’s the point? This shouldn’t, however, come at the cost of a clean user interface and a clear user experience. There have been many experiments out there that draw a connection between a good UX/UI design and higher user engagement. How many times have you gone to a website, and just wondered if they somehow used ChatGPT to generate it? Neglecting the design of your MVP can prevent users from properly adopting your product and engagement will undoubtedly suffer. No user engagement means no user feedback. And no user feedback means you are forced to go back to the drawing board and forget about that holiday in Bali.You don’t have to be a UI designer to have a clear and coherent website. It’s never been easier to go to a platform like Dribbble and hire someone to help you out. If paying someone is not an option, then you can check the many component and template libraries available out that can also help you out.Again the goal here is not to be a Linear or a Stripe. The goal is to provide the user with a straightforward experience of solving their problem without them having to sit back and think about how to take the next action on your website.ConclusionThe process of validating an idea is not an easy one, but avoiding common pitfalls like these can greatly increase your chances of success. And if you need any help bringing your idea to life, at Simple Suite, we are always here to help.
Article: https://www.simplesuite.co/blog/how-not-to-build-a-minimum-viable-product
2023.06.06 17:11 Illustrious_Aioli956 Reddit is cooked
I see why it has the reputation it does now. I thought it would be slightly better than twt, but it’s it basically the same with higher concentration of lonely ingrates who can’t get laid. I’ve already had someone try to rationalize that people who explain why they do vile shit, is somehow better than people who have negative opinions about it. At least on twt everyone is negative and bitter and doesn’t get on a soapbox to pretend like it’s bad to be negative about it. If it wasn’t for it’s better system for community discussions about tv shows/ movies, I wouldn’t even think about being here, but now I’m highly reconsidering.
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2023.06.06 17:11 pablidito What could be the cause of low water pressure in kitchen faucet?
Our house was built in 2016 and we have a tankless water heater. Water pressure throughout the house is relatively ok (could be stronger but we can live with it). The problem is our kitchen faucet. The water pressure is very low and recently we’ve had issues with inconsistency of hot water coming out of it. We had a plumber look at it and he cleaned the screen in the faucet but that didn’t resolve the issue. Apparently we have sediment in our water line. He also adjusted the main water line valve to open it up slightly but problem is still there. Any suggestions on what could be the problem and how to properly resolve the issue would be most welcome.
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2023.06.06 17:11 sophlume Advice on nicotine free vapes
M22, 180lbs
I’ve been nicotine free now since October 2021. I quit because i got my wisdom teeth pulled and couldn’t smoke anything, so I never picked it back up. I’ve done really good except the problem is, since I’ve quit vaping nicotine, I vape weed so much more often.
I’ve been a daily weed smoker for almost 8 years now but since quitting nicotine I’ve been smoking so much more weed to the point that i’m pretty much high from the time i get up, to the time i go to sleep. Specifically, i’ve been smoking Cake bars, which i know aren’t safe to begin with. The thing is, most of the time when i hit it, it’s not to get high, but just because of the oral fixation.
I’ve been considering purchasing a 0% nicotine vape to try and stop me from hitting my cake bar as much. I really don’t want to spend every day high as a kite because of my oral fixation. I’m aware that that all vapes have the potential to be harmful, but i feel like hitting something with no nicotine or THC is better than chiefing all day lol.
Any recommendations on nicotine free vapes??
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I’ve been nicotine free now since October 2021. I quit because i got my wisdom teeth pulled and couldn’t smoke anything, so I never picked it back up. I’ve done really good except the problem is, since I’ve quit vaping nicotine, I vape weed so much more often.
I’ve been a daily weed smoker for almost 8 years now but since quitting nicotine I’ve been smoking so much more weed to the point that i’m pretty much high from the time i get up, to the time i go to sleep. Specifically, i’ve been smoking Cake bars, which i know aren’t safe to begin with. The thing is, most of the time when i hit it, it’s not to get high, but just because of the oral fixation.
I’ve been considering purchasing a 0% nicotine vape to try and stop me from hitting my cake bar as much. I really don’t want to spend every day high as a kite because of my oral fixation. I’m aware that that all vapes have the potential to be harmful, but i feel like hitting something with no nicotine or THC is better than chiefing all day lol.
Any recommendations on nicotine free vapes??
2023.06.06 17:11 Jazzlike_College_893 Anyone use Aljex TMS? Question about customizing load board view
About 6 months ago I changed companies (agency model) and the new company uses Aljex. I’m used to a load board like TQL, Integrity express and others use that separate your loads into three horizontal groups: top is future loads. Middle is todays loads/un-dispatched loads. Bottom is dispatched/loaded loads.
It makes it super simple to keep track of loads so you aren’t constantly searching for little date boxes in a list of loads on your board.
This is the second time I’ve had a list load board, rather than a grouped load board as outlined above- and it’s just much more chaotic feeling to me, nowhere near as easy as it is to keep track of everything as it is when in the three groups. It’s SO simple to view your board and know exactly what is going on in a split second, and that’s nowhere near as easy with a list board.
Anyone know if I can customize my Aljex board to group like that? Or do I just need to suck it up and sort by date etc?
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It makes it super simple to keep track of loads so you aren’t constantly searching for little date boxes in a list of loads on your board.
This is the second time I’ve had a list load board, rather than a grouped load board as outlined above- and it’s just much more chaotic feeling to me, nowhere near as easy as it is to keep track of everything as it is when in the three groups. It’s SO simple to view your board and know exactly what is going on in a split second, and that’s nowhere near as easy with a list board.
Anyone know if I can customize my Aljex board to group like that? Or do I just need to suck it up and sort by date etc?
2023.06.06 17:11 TalesFromDeadBird PART 2: Wayward wife’s DID is sabotaging Our Love. 2022’s summer of betrayal continued with a lesbian affair that nearly killed everyone here.
TL;DR for Part 2: The trauma of AP1 induced sexual unresponsiveness towards men in my wife. When her friend found out, she took advantage and a near-fatal lesbian affair began.
SUDDEN DERAILMENT
During intimacy attempts, my wife kept shutting down due to intrusive memories of the affair plus a peculiar urge to blot out the existence of non-abusive sex. Her alters were clinging to my uncle’s ‘style’. She quickly realized that AP1 trauma had stained sex and rendered her unresponsive towards me. Aghast, she sought advice from her friend, who nabbed the chance to confess her lesbian crush. This shock prompted another alter-driven affair on June 16th, 2022. The psychologist was cancelled and my therapy savings soon spent on gifts.
Given how romantic it was, I felt replaced, invisible, abandoned (childhood feelings). I couldn’t stand the giggling, writing of poems, sexting and moaning AP2’s name in wet dreams. It sliced and diced my heart, particularly since she blinded herself to my pain no matter how I pushed her to see it (narc grandmother theme). Mrs. Cakeeater cried that she wants us both and can’t choose. The restless torment of a hypermonogamist (me) forced into ‘polyamory’ is indescribable.
June 23rd, I ranted at AP2 for stealing the Love of My Life and decided on suicide even if it means going to Hell—Heaven means nothing without my wife. Panicked AP2 called police and urged WW to save me. WW was unrecognizably hollow. While Mom handled the officers, I passed out in bitter tears, WW’s hand numbly wiping them away.
Fights started. My resentful rage was exploding while teary True Wife explained the lesbian affair is a therapy mission. She swore to end it as soon as she solves the mysteries. I refused to support it. Our unbearable stress incited the fullblown manifestation of my AFib and further heart issues for my wife. Daily vomiting turned her into skin-and-bones. We nearly died several times. That would have resulted in the immediate suicide of both My Mom and AP2, plus the demise of my grandmother. Speaking of Mom, she lost extreme amounts of weight and suffered many health issues as a result of this affair. She went through this profoundly, as Mom adores us both equally.
Eventually I put my wife’s happiness above my own and let her go: if she is meant to come back to me, she will. I spent another month in living death. True Wife kept her promise. Once she pinpointed previously-unknown traumas in herself and AP2, her alters lost their grip, the affair ended (August 13th, 2022), and Love for me flooded back. She returned a matured woman: more conscious, rational, and opposed to adultery than ever. I fell in Love with her vibrancy, we overcame the vitriol and Our Marriage resumed—sort of. Profoundly remorseful AP2 also became our best friend and biggest supporter.
A STRAINED AFTERMATH
Although both affairs had their benefits, their damage is severe. My wife was the only one in my life who didn’t derive fun from my pain or constantly break my trust. I also unquestioningly believed that she’s incapable of LOVING anyone but me. No one but her made me feel Seen, Heard, Safe, and Certain, thus nothing hurt more than losing my only reliable oasis on Earth.
Adding to agony: AP1 still highjacked our sex life. The conscious resurrection of my uncle in WW’s psyche permanently split him and I into two men and revealed that she is imprinted on him. Between bringing that into her awareness and the various desecrations, AP1 vandalized my property. Damn the timing! We were on the verge of a sex life free from trauma! I felt livid that my uncle was sidetracking Our Love again in proxy form. This was exacerbated by her alters attempts to solicit Uncle 2.0. For months I patrolled my turf obsessively while screaming inside. WW and I lived in tension despite efforts to be Loving again.
I struggled to overcome the sense that my wife is tainted. Sex slavery aside, she was always my exclusive treasure. Suddenly a specific guy’s marks were all over her and nothing was scrubbing them off. She was no longer ONLY MINE. My ownership felt diluted, invalidated, defeated. Innate aversion to others’ territory threatened to reduce interest in her—sacrilege given that she is My Twin Flame. I couldn’t allow that. Definitely not over my fucking uncle!
I put the bedroom on hold until these stains were purified, thinking it was best not to push my wife until she is ready. Damn was I wrong.
2023’s infidelity fiasco is in Part 2.
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SUDDEN DERAILMENT
During intimacy attempts, my wife kept shutting down due to intrusive memories of the affair plus a peculiar urge to blot out the existence of non-abusive sex. Her alters were clinging to my uncle’s ‘style’. She quickly realized that AP1 trauma had stained sex and rendered her unresponsive towards me. Aghast, she sought advice from her friend, who nabbed the chance to confess her lesbian crush. This shock prompted another alter-driven affair on June 16th, 2022. The psychologist was cancelled and my therapy savings soon spent on gifts.
Given how romantic it was, I felt replaced, invisible, abandoned (childhood feelings). I couldn’t stand the giggling, writing of poems, sexting and moaning AP2’s name in wet dreams. It sliced and diced my heart, particularly since she blinded herself to my pain no matter how I pushed her to see it (narc grandmother theme). Mrs. Cakeeater cried that she wants us both and can’t choose. The restless torment of a hypermonogamist (me) forced into ‘polyamory’ is indescribable.
June 23rd, I ranted at AP2 for stealing the Love of My Life and decided on suicide even if it means going to Hell—Heaven means nothing without my wife. Panicked AP2 called police and urged WW to save me. WW was unrecognizably hollow. While Mom handled the officers, I passed out in bitter tears, WW’s hand numbly wiping them away.
Fights started. My resentful rage was exploding while teary True Wife explained the lesbian affair is a therapy mission. She swore to end it as soon as she solves the mysteries. I refused to support it. Our unbearable stress incited the fullblown manifestation of my AFib and further heart issues for my wife. Daily vomiting turned her into skin-and-bones. We nearly died several times. That would have resulted in the immediate suicide of both My Mom and AP2, plus the demise of my grandmother. Speaking of Mom, she lost extreme amounts of weight and suffered many health issues as a result of this affair. She went through this profoundly, as Mom adores us both equally.
Eventually I put my wife’s happiness above my own and let her go: if she is meant to come back to me, she will. I spent another month in living death. True Wife kept her promise. Once she pinpointed previously-unknown traumas in herself and AP2, her alters lost their grip, the affair ended (August 13th, 2022), and Love for me flooded back. She returned a matured woman: more conscious, rational, and opposed to adultery than ever. I fell in Love with her vibrancy, we overcame the vitriol and Our Marriage resumed—sort of. Profoundly remorseful AP2 also became our best friend and biggest supporter.
A STRAINED AFTERMATH
Although both affairs had their benefits, their damage is severe. My wife was the only one in my life who didn’t derive fun from my pain or constantly break my trust. I also unquestioningly believed that she’s incapable of LOVING anyone but me. No one but her made me feel Seen, Heard, Safe, and Certain, thus nothing hurt more than losing my only reliable oasis on Earth.
Adding to agony: AP1 still highjacked our sex life. The conscious resurrection of my uncle in WW’s psyche permanently split him and I into two men and revealed that she is imprinted on him. Between bringing that into her awareness and the various desecrations, AP1 vandalized my property. Damn the timing! We were on the verge of a sex life free from trauma! I felt livid that my uncle was sidetracking Our Love again in proxy form. This was exacerbated by her alters attempts to solicit Uncle 2.0. For months I patrolled my turf obsessively while screaming inside. WW and I lived in tension despite efforts to be Loving again.
I struggled to overcome the sense that my wife is tainted. Sex slavery aside, she was always my exclusive treasure. Suddenly a specific guy’s marks were all over her and nothing was scrubbing them off. She was no longer ONLY MINE. My ownership felt diluted, invalidated, defeated. Innate aversion to others’ territory threatened to reduce interest in her—sacrilege given that she is My Twin Flame. I couldn’t allow that. Definitely not over my fucking uncle!
I put the bedroom on hold until these stains were purified, thinking it was best not to push my wife until she is ready. Damn was I wrong.
2023’s infidelity fiasco is in Part 2.