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My 4 year Olds tantrums have been weighing on our family for almost a year now. We have drastically changed our lives as a family to try and help his needs and moods. His defiance often times gets in the way of some of the most basic things like eating.
It's just impossible to pin down one reason for the tantrums. On the weekends he skips naps and any kind of "rest time". We've spent months fighting that battle and we just don't have it in us anymore, so we sneak his bedtime earlier by a half hour to an hour on the weekends.
Sometimes he refuses to eat foods of any sustenance often at home, and especially if we are in social settings. We try to load him up before social events, and carry backup safe foods, but we've found once he's in a mood where he knows we want him to eat and he wants to defy us, he will decline food for hours upon hours until he has a complete meltdown.
We do have something scheduled with a feeding program, but that's months away. He battles constipation (because he refuses to poop) so he's on half a cap of miralax every other day to keep him regular. Half a cap every day was really triggering his moods, so we cut down 2 days ago.
I just dread weekends at this point, because I know by Sunday early afternoon he's going to be an absolute wreck, and by saturday morning im going to be tired of fighting my 20th battle of the day. We took an extended break from screen time 2 weeks ago which seemed to help. We get right up and out on the weekends because we thought that resting and lounging on Saturday mornings were messing with his usual weekday school schedule. We are basically dedicating our while lives to working around his tantrums.
We were signed up for gymnastics last fall but he battled us so badly most mornings to get out of the house that we gave up. Swim lessons are just out of the question, since he has refused even our offers to get him some.
He's in school FT, and he watches me drop him off and bring our 10 month home every day (we have no daycare for her unfortunately), so I suspect there's a lot of jealousy at play, too.
Yesterday's double meltdown broke me (though, I feel like I say that every few days). It was time to leave a family party, where he was kind of a battle the whole time behaviorally to begin with so I was ready to get us out of there when the party ended. He had an absolute meltdown, and it took took my husband and I's full effort to get him buckled in his seat. I had to sit back there with him to restrain him from unbuckling his seat belt while we were driving, all while he's scratching, screaming, crying, and headbutting me.
We try so hard to calmly address his meltdowns, but sometimes we lose our cool with him. Yesterday my husband and I pulled over, took the baby out of the car, locked the door for safety and left him in there to freak out for 10 minutes while we cooled off about 20 feet away so that we could have a break from his screaming. He was still upset for the rest of the drive home but we were able to calmly talk to him. He then proceeded to fight sleep for 3 hours despite being deadly tired that night and had another full blown dystegulated meltdown where he screamed at us for 2 hours. Every time we try and turn things around it feels he digs in and fights anything good we have going with all his power.
We do have a call in with a behavioral therapist, but I'm guessing we will be on a long wait list. I've clued his school in and am thankful to report that for the most part, he is an angel at school. They're sympathetic and want to try and work with us to figure things out, as this was not the first Monday I've walked in on the verge of tears, upset at how shitty the weekend was.
I'm so sick of the threats, the good behavior reward charts, the constant battles to just get him to function.

I see the subject of ADHD, caffeine, and Adderall come up around here often and I just wanted to share my experience, opinions, and insights. Buckle up.
I was on Adderall for 12 years and caffeine is child’s play in comparison. Amphetamine salts absolutely destroy your body and brain over long periods of use. It took me about 3 years to recover from Adderall, and I was taking it just as my doctor prescribed. I developed terrible gastric problems that I’m still dealing with today, although to a lesser degree. Adderall floods your brain with dopamine harder than caffeine ever could and the anhedonia from withdrawal is the worst thing I’ve ever experienced. Also, your adrenals are constantly throttled which makes getting full, restful sleep impossible. I developed huge dark bags under my eyes, crows feet wrinkles, and my hair started turning white. Once I quit Adderall, against my doctors advice mind you, I started drinking coffee.
Now in the absence of both Adderall and caffeine, I will tell you what made the biggest change in managing my unfocused, high energy personality: I had to modify my life so that it is optimized for who I am instead of trying to drug myself into being something I’m not. I am not naturally a 9-5er. I have trouble being in a single place for too long, so I went and started my own business. Maybe it’s not so much the time commitment that was difficult since I went from working 8 hours a day to working 12-16 hours a day when I first started. But I think I finally achieved being able to live, work, and exist in a way that does not need to be manipulated by some exogenous substance. I naturally wake at 5am, work for a few hours, go on an hour walk, eat breakfast, work a few more hours, do some Wim Hof breathing exercises, work a little more, go to the gym for an hour, eat lunch, work a few more hours, go for another hour walk or go to the beach or the pool, work a little more, go to the sauna, eat dinner, might work a little more afterwards, maybe write some music… you get the idea. Who the hell is going to give me a job with that schedule? No one. Yet, I’m more productive than I’ve ever been in my life and it’s sustainable. I have a mountain of responsibilities and those change abruptly and frequently throughout the day. This suits me because I need to engage with something novel or I lose interest and focus. (Shouldn’t that be normal?) When I have long projects, I am able to break them down into chunks and scatter them among the rest of my day, while doing things for myself. This gives me a really powerful way to negotiate with myself to complete tasks that I may not particularly enjoy. Side note, I co-founded a civil engineering firm but my education and background is a PhD in the biomedical sciences and I worked in the medical industry for 18 years… it’s a long story.
I hope my sharing doesn’t sound pompous; I know most people will consider entrepreneurship an unreasonable or unattainable solution, but maybe something like remote work or a more flexible occupation is a possibility. I just wanted share that after all my experience with trying to manage my “condition” with either meds or caffeine, this is the only thing that actually works, is healthy, and will last. I guess my point is this: there is no simple solution for us. There’s no magic pill — You have to change your life. Whether you have ADHD or not, I think that many in this sub feel the same way: We don’t naturally fit in the normal flow and schedule of the corporate workplace. Society at large has a big problem with this, which is why we are considered to be an ICD code that must be managed with medication or we self-medicate with caffeine. You are given a drug that ultimately kills your spirit so you can maintain working an unfulfilling job or living your life in a way that ultimately kills your spirit. You are not a diagnosis simply because you don’t work or think the way other people do. You might be different, but there is nothing wrong with you. Don’t let people stigmatize you or make you feel small. Dream big, dare to be great; your life, health, and happiness depend on it.

Ok so this is a long story but I will try my best to summarize. When I was in high school, I was dating a guy for 2 years and lost my virginity after a year of dating him. I would eventually break up with him once we went to college, but we remained friends. During my first year in college, I reconnected with my old best friend (and childhood crush). Our past basically consisted of me telling him I liked him throughout our childhood but him rejecting me by saying we were too young or the fact that we were long distance would never work (40 minute drive). Eventually he fell into depression due to family issues and pushed me away to the point that we stopped talking. However, once we met up again in college, the old chemistry we had was immediately evident and we kept hanging out until we realized we wanted to start dating. I was very upfront about my past relationship with him before we even started dating and even asked if he was comfortable with me occasionally being in contact with my ex since we were still friends. He said it was ok. Although, a few months into our relationship, my ex blocked me anyway. (He still liked me and did it out of respect for my new relationship) Then the next year of our relationship was amazing (we've been dating for a year and a half). My boyfriend was the sweetest guy I have ever known. We were basically inseparable and went through everything together, even a terrible car accident. At the time, I was living on campus and we basically lived together and were constantly doing things together. I moved back home for the summer and he was able to officially meet my parents as my boyfriend. It was during this time that there was a big change. My boyfriend has to work a lot in order to pay for school and the car he had to get after the accident. And I began to notice a big shift in his mood. He became a lot more irritable and depressed which I found was not too surprising as he usually became more depressed during the colder months (seasonal depression). So I did my best to try to help him by being supportive and encouraged him not to push it too hard with work (he was working 3 jobs at the time). Even though I was no longer living on campus, I would go to his house and try to clean things up because I know he never had time and messes bother him. I would try to pay for our dates because I knew finances were hard for him. I would just be there for him on days when his mood was terrible. Yet, after a few months, there was little improvement and eventually he started telling me the truth. He told me that the entire relationship, he was bothered by the fact that I was not a virgin. we are both catholic so I understood that it was a shock to him that I did not wait until marriage. Early in our relationship, we also had sex when he told me he was ready. He tells me now that he felt like he had to because I already did it. But to him, it was really important to him that he would wait until marriage and that his wife was a virgin. He thinks that just because I already had sex with someone else that "he wasn't worth waiting for". Ive tried to explain that it had nothing to do with him and doesn't change how I feel about him now but he won't listen. He also had an issue with me still having pictures with my ex, which I understand in hindsight I shouldve gotten rid of earlier but it was never something I actively thought about because I was always with my current bf and I never really thought about the pictures enough to go back and delete them. They have now since been deleted but my boyfriend claims I wasn't completely invested in our relationship from the start and I still had feelings for my ex, which I don't at all. He went on to complain about how I still talked to my ex during our relationship and how I wasn't the one to end my contact with him since he was the one that blocked me. I was confused because I had asked if he would be okay with me still talking to my ex but he told me that the fact I asked him was terrible because I should have just known that I shouldn't talk to my ex anymore if I was being thoughtful of my current boyfriend. So he had said it was ok because he was upset? From then on, his effort in our relationship was very minimal. Almost like it was my turn to pick up the effort and fix the fact that I was not thoughtful enough to him. It was so disheartening for me to hear this because i always tried to be thoughtful of him. I would walk to his work just so he wouldnt have to walk back to the dorm alone. I would wait outside his second job in the cold so he wouldnt have to drive alone after the accident because he had ptsd and was terrified to drive. However, I took the feedback and since then, I would try so hard to be there for him. I would skip classes on days when he was really sad and didn't want to be alone. I planned really thoughtful dates for us so he would have something to look forward to. Etc. Throughout this time he was constantly having mood swings where when he was in a bad mood he would hang up when we were talking on the phone or even blame everything on me. He would tell me his depressive mood wasn't from his jobs or the seasons but it was him no longer being able to hide how hurt he was from me anymore. Telling me I ruined his life and it was all my fault. I of course would cry as he told me all of this and would try to explain that the way he was saying those things hurt me too but he would tell me that my reaction makes him feel like he can't talk to me and that im not a support to him, so he would try to bottle it up and would resort to breaking things. Throughout this time I read a lot of advice and I definitely got some perspective about how I could be a better partner and told him I would continue to try to be better to him (I admit I was not always the most respectful to him and was quite defensive during our fights instead of listening to him). Since then I've tried tremendously to improve and be more romantic and thoughtful to him. After a trip to go to his aunts funeral and returning to a surprise I set up at his house, he was back to the sweet boyfriend I knew from the first year. However, after a couple of days, he became upset all over again about how i didnt wait for him and that he wasnt worth it to me. Its been a ton of mood swings since then. its like we've taken 4 steps back as he's even gotten to the point of saying im not actually sorry or that I dont actually love him when I try to tell him. Yet sometimes he can be really loving and we'll still have great times. He often tells me that he just needs time to heal from all the hurt I've caused him and that it is something we are working towards together. I just wanted to get some perspective on the situation. Am I doing something wrong? I'm sorry it is such a long post. Tldr: my boyfriend is upset that I was not a virgin at the start of our relationship and have not been thoughtful enough throughout our relationship. I'm trying to improve myself for him but its been really hard.

Hello, IMAM! Recently, I placed three orders – two were direct orders from indie houses, and one was from the destashes. One of the direct orders contained two candles, which will actually be reviewed separately from the perfume oils (which I will focus on here).
While I chose the samples all based on notes, I make a point of not double-checking when I test, going in as blindly as possible. Now, on to the reviews!
Possets
“Dance with Me” – Refreshing and refined at once. A perennial favorite. A superb coumarin-laced lavender combines with fizzy pink grapefruit, and it all rests on a bed of white musk. Enchantingly innocent but with loads of guile.
This was one of the few General Catalog fragrances from Possets that intrigued me (I’m mostly interested in stuff in the retours that can’t be purchased as samples from the site, because of course I am). When I placed my Possets order last year this almost made the cut, though I ultimately decided against it because I felt like it was better suited to warmer weather.
One note before we go further: I used to be extremely wary of grapefruit as a note. This was due to a disastrous experience in my early teens with Clinique “Happy” (mainstream) where it turned astringent and just plain wrong on my skin. Upon learning from Fragrantica that grapefruit is a main note of “Happy,” I blamed the fruit and vowed to stay away from it. Years later I would try a different grapefruit scent and actually have a lovely experience, causing me to reevaluate my reaction to “Happy.” (I’ve since learned the culprit was apple, whose fragrance molecule contains aldehydes, which I sadly cannot wear. I don’t think I like lily-of-the-valley much, either. Yes, this means I miss out on a lot of great fragrances.)
Admittedly, I was expecting more of a fougère when I tested this, like a very citric unisex scent. I am actually surprised by how low-key the lavender is. The opening grapefruit packs a delicious punch – it is ruby red and sparkling (but not aldehydic). After settling, the vanilla surges to the fore and turns this into a Grapefruit Creamsicle, if that is possible; though next to the skin a slightly perfume-y grapefruit is still detectable. (The notes, surprisingly, don’t contain vanilla, only coumarin / tonka bean.) I am genuinely shocked at how good this is.
Rating: 5/5 – new springtime go-to?
The next two fragrances I tried both by themselves and layered with others.
Arcana Craves
“Fresh Ginger” – fresh, bright, spicy, juicy ginger root
Out of the vial, this alternates between smelling like grated ginger and… pickled ginger. I’m not joking. No joke, I was visualizing wasabi next to it. And on the skin… whooooooo boy. GINGER LOVERS UNITE!
This is a ginger HG. Perfectly consistent, and perfectly piquant – never powdery. On its own the longevity is between 5 and 6 hours; and so far I would say it’s the same when layered with “Garnet Grapefruit” for a spicy citric punch.
I’m not normally a “layer” person, but “Fresh Ginger” can presumably be layered with many types of fragrances: citrus, floral, resinous / spicy, etc. It’s extremely versatile. I’m also just as likely to wear this by itself (like I do my “Candy Cane”).
Rating: 5/5 – Now I just need to find a wasabi perfume…
“Garnet Grapefruit” – The simple scent of refreshing, citrusy red grapefruit. More of a literal interpretation than a perfumey scent.
One of my main wishes going into this one was that it wouldn’t be like “Peach”: beautiful on my skin but gone in 20 seconds. Luckily, I can smell “Garnet Grapefruit” on my arm after a workday has passed; however, the scent always hugs the skin. In order to get this hyper realistic grapefruit to project, it must be layered over something.
I have actually enjoyed layering this over Possets “Dance with Me,” believe it or not! It does make that grapefruit more food-like and less “sparkling,” but no less enjoyable. And both GG and FG actually make quite the layering pair (as I’d thought when I purchased these).
Rating: 5/5 – I am on a roll right now!
“White Cake” – vanilla-infused white cake with a fine, delicate crumb
This one was a surprise 1mL freebie in my order; unfortunately, I have a bad history with a lot of cake scents. They’re usually too sweet for me, especially when not combined with a grounding, non-gourmand note. I opened that vial and the first thing I smelled was icing. Thick, sugary buttercream. I almost didn’t even test this at all, but told myself to quit being a big baby and dabbed a small amount on my arm.
Yes, at first this was pure icing, and I thought about scrubbing. I felt like the mean Ms. Dubrow at the end of Dunston Checks In (childhood favorite), submerged in a ruined multi-tiered cake. (It’s not a pleasant downfall in the movie, and it wasn’t pleasant for me to smell.) Eventually, however, it calmed down into a crumbly vanilla scent. I can’t imagine how sweet “Yellow Cake” must be if it’s sweeter than this, since the beginning of “White Cake” almost made my teeth hurt. I suppose I could play around with layering this… but I really don’t want to.
Rating: 1/5 – aaaaaaand my streak ended
The next two scents were for the purpose of comparison, and a revisit to a house with which. I haven’t had much luck.
Poesie
“Athena” – sun-baked Mediterranean herbs and earth, a rich and resinous vanilla spiked with a complex blend of incense and spice, exquisite grey musk
This was a fragrance I had quite a while ago – long since ran out. I’ve been thinking about getting a FS, but instead I decided to compare a sample to another one that seemed to have similar notes. In any case, “Athena” was the only Poesie fragrance of the sample set I’d bought that actually worked with my skin. (“Black Cat Cuddles” also wasn’t too bad, though it did get quite peppery on me.) I think it worked because it wasn’t a sweet scent – all the sweet scents all had a kind of Band-Aid / plaster accord in their base. But not “Athena.”
And this revisit was much the same: dry vanilla, the kind that makes me envision cracked Mediterranean earth. Then the rosemary hits. In warm weather the rosemary is much stronger, but in winter the vanilla still wins out in the end. This is refreshing, not to mention soothing to smell on an upset stomach.
Rating: 5/5 – delightful
“Villa Diodati” – pungent wild rosemary and fresh balsam pine, crystal clear lakewater, dry, dark vanilla
I have been curious about this one for a long time. On its face, the notes list seemed similar to that of “Athena,” but the lake aspect intrigued me. Finally, I procured a sample in the destashes to form a comparison.
And lake water is, in fact, the star of this show – coming to the fore in a cologne-like aspect, enough to remind me of Davidoff “Cool Water” (mainstream). This reads quite masculine to my nose. While it’s a very pleasant scent, incorporating the rosemary and pine (not much vanilla to be had) into its aquatic nature, it’s still something I would rather smell on my (hypothetical) boyfriend than myself.
Although I’m glad I still like it, because the vial slipped out if my had when I tried to close it, and about half the contents spilled onto my rug. ☹
Rating: 4/5 – If you’re looking for an indie alternative to “Cool Water,” look no further.
“Selene” – magnolia grandiflora, moon musk, calming clouds
This was a freebie, and one I couldn’t recall from Poesie’s catalog. So I went into this truly blind. Sniffing out of the vial I couldn’t pick up much, and the fragrance doesn’t heavily project on skin. However, it is still a detectable amber accord. Normally I dislike amber, but I was able to tolerate it here because it leaned slightly more “candle” than “powder,” and wasn’t combined with something that would give me a headache (e.g., sandalwood, which I often see is combined with amber). I guarantee the “clouds” portion of the notes list means amber. I’m more surprised that I wasn’t able to pick up the magnolia specifically; but then again, I’m not a floral perfume fan.
Rating: 3/5 – it’s nice, if you like this sort of thing
Altogether, I’m wondering if Poesie is a house worth revisiting formally – outside of the teas, which I already love. 😊 I just know to stay away from their sweeter accords. Like perhaps “Oyster!” or “Bijou,” or even “Forest Cat”…
Nui Cobalt
“Snow Cat 2022” – lightly toasted marzipan, ivory amber, chilled coconut milk, and the soft fur of a purring kitten
This one was another freebie in my haul (from the direct NC order). The Cats Collection never really interested me, except for maybe “Ginger Cat,” so I couldn’t recall the notes I’d seen for “Snow Cat” (before or after re-blend). Therefore, this is another one where I went in totally blind.
Out of the vial, this smelled vaguely citric… maybe rhubarb, instead? And then the coconut hit, and I got optimistic. Perhaps this would be like “Avalanche,” but maybe even better? I tested with high hopes, but sadly they were not delivered upon. The drydown for this was quite amber-like (much like Poesie “Selene”), except there was also something in here that reminded me vaguely of cough medicine. (I don’t like the smell of almonds, so maybe it was the marzipan accord doing this?) Alas, it wasn’t strong enough for me to consider scrubbing, and before the four-hour mark it was gone.
Rating: 1/5 – no purrs to be had here, sorry
“The Wings of the Morrigan” – soft, smokey leather with a splash of red wine, an offering of black cherries and bitter chocolate, the steel and stone of the battlefield
Another freebie, and one which I had completely forgotten existed! No idea what to expect when I sniffed the vial (though I assumed it had everything to do with Celtic mythology and not Dragon Age). The accord I picked up reminded me of the sparkling ginger ale of “Atrophilia.” I can’t wear aldehydes, so this made me a bit nervous to test…
It doesn’t “sparkle” on the skin, though. The dominant note I pick up is cherry, and unfortunately I’m not a cherry fan (due to its similarity to almond). In the base there definitely is a smokiness and something that I can now identify as leather – it must be synthetic, because I didn’t break out in hives at the testing site (I’m allergic to birch, and birch tar is often used for leather notes). I can see the gothic appeal for others, but sadly this is not for me.
Rating: 3/5 – swooping is bad
“Ghost Train” – stark white copal, cedarwood, coal dust, grey cashmere, cardamom, toasted marshmallow, and shining steel
I remember wanting to try this one because it sounded so weird, even though another NC fragrance I’d purchased due to perceived weirdness wound up not working for me at all. (That was “Excelsior!”) However, by the time I received this I actually forgot what it was supposed to smell like altogether. Prior to testing, I worried this would be too metallic (the “train” aspect), but on skin this bloomed.
For the most part, this was a deliciously spiced marshmallow. I hesitate to call it a cinnamon hot cocoa concoction, because it was more sophisticated than that. And running underneath this sweet & spicy accord was something metallic, yes, but also something… green. Just slightly green. Almost like ivy growing over an abandoned train car. (I think the “green” in this case is cardamom.)
And then it hit me: this was what I’d wanted Fantôme “Ectoplasm” (spooky, goopy marshmallow over bone-chilling white musk, sweet amber, a gossamer sugar glaze, dark myrrh, and creeping greenery) to smell like! That one had just been the marshmallows, though (I didn’t get the “creeping greenery”) – but here, I also got the eerie train car, likely filled with ghosts.
Rating: 5/5 – nice to be so pleasantly surprised
“Sultry” – two dark, lascivious vanillas swirled with dragon’s blood, heavy velvet musk and the secrets of an old rootworker’s conjure cabinet
This is a GC fragrance that was sort of on my radar, but I was surprised to smell something so… “traditional” out of the vial. It smelled heavily of amber, which really doesn’t work on me, and I genuinely wondered for a bit if there was a sandalwood note I missed (the dragon’s blood is rendered cold here). On skin it didn’t develop a whole lot, though it stayed for several hours before becoming just slightly soapy. Not offensive enough to be a scrubber, but so completely not me. It reminded me a lot of Haus of Gloi “Depravity” (clove, nutmeg lurk amongst the sweetest offerings of coconut, on a bed of rich golden amber, laden with dustings of sandalwood and spilled wine) in its profile – “Depravity” projects more, though. Altogether, very much a femme fatale boudoir scent.
Rating: 2/5 – calling all femmes fatales…
“Seduction” – opulent flowers, piquant cloves, warm scarlet musk and hoodoo roots tangled in a potion of simmering vanilla
The last of the freebies was the second to last sample I tested, and honestly… very similar to “Sultry.” The only difference was a note in the middle like toasted coconut. But otherwise, almost identical “traditional” development with slightly soapy drydown.
Rating: 2/5 – eh…
“House of Identity” – smoked vanilla, sweet resins, red musk, marshmallow, and fiery woodsmoke
The final fragrance I tested was the only one I ordered directly from NC (along with my two candles), because it was the only one from the Astrology collection that I thought I could wear. I remember thinking it sounded incredibly interesting.
In reality, this smells like toasted coconut and cucumbers drowning in cologne. At times this has almost the same masculine aroma as Poesie “Villa Diodati,” but other times it’s definitely more of a “perfume” than “cologne.” Perhaps that makes this totally unisex, but for vaguely aquatic or even subterranean coconuts I much prefer NC “Medusa” to this.
Rating: 2/5 – just reminded me of other fragrances I liked more
The end of this testing run kind of fizzled out, after an amazing beginning. Altogether, out of 13 fragrances I plan to keep 5 – which, on the surface, isn’t a lot; but both my FS bottles were slam-dunks! So in terms of volume, it’s about fifty-fifty, which (with these kinds of hauls) is a pretty good turnout. I also have a feeling I’ve tried everything from NC that will work on me, for the time being, and should give that house a rest in favor of others.
If I were to rank the fragrances:

1. Possets “Dance with Me”
   
2. Arcana Craves “Fresh Ginger”
   
3. Nui Cobalt, “Ghost Train”
   
4. Poesie “Athena”
   
5. Arcana Craves “Garnet Grapefruit”
   
6. Poesie “Villa Diodato”
   
7. Nui Cobalt “The Wings of the Morrigan”
   
8. Poesie “Selene”
   
9. Nui Cobalt “House of Identity”
   
10. Nui Cobalt “Seduction”
    
11. Nui Cobalt “Sultry”
    
12. Arcana Craves “White Cake”
    
13. Nui Cobalt “Snow Cat 2022”
    

Asking for friend, her husband is a painter and jobs slowed for him more than expected for the winter months.
I have limited information so I apologize in advance for that. Looking to see what random people on the internet might know about resources that can help. Or general ideas.
They are 5307.09 k behind and have a deadline of April 8 to pay the money in full, or they begin foreclosure process.
They probably can't come up with that lump sum on time. They do have a tax return they say will cover it, but won't be getting it on time to pay the sum. The return is with a tax professional waiting to be filed.
Looking for suggestions.

Maybe that title is a bit too cheesy, but I really do like exploring the night sky. Helps especially since my hometown was a great place to do so. That all aside, hello! I am Pydras, fat cat collector, lessor avatar of chaos, and most boring of all, corporate accountant. While I always knew I had demisexual tendencies since I've started having relationships, it wasn't until a few years ago that I actually learned the term. After talking with a friend about my dating experiences he introduced me to the term which lead me to finding the community. Now here I am to find people to potentially connect with and see what develops. Whether that leads to friendship or something more will remain to be seen, but life is short so have to get out there and try!
A little more about me! As stated earlier, I am a corporate accountant, currently working in BC, though my career prospects are quite mobile. Could stay where I am, could go to Vancouver, who knows I might even go back to Edmonton. I am quite fond of cooking, and decent enough at it as well! I would say at least 67% of it would be tolerable to most people. Since my job is basically just sitting around all day, I try and workout at least three or four times a week to stay active and in shape. That being said I do have a sweet tooth that I am quite good at managing, except for my weakness of homemade baked goods. Art wise, I really have no skills in most of those areas except for writing (use to do some RP back in the day). Well, I do make quite the horrible MS Paint masterpiece if the inspiration hits, so that might count. Politically I am quite on the left side, and religion wise I tend to fall more into agnosticism and atheism.
For subject interests, my top three would probably have to be history, geography, and geology. One of my favourite things to do when bored is open Google maps and go to a random area and see what I can learn of those three for it. However, my absolute biggest interest and the one I hold closest to me is music. While I can't really play an instrument (have been trying to relearn piano), I usually have some sort of playlist on if I am not too busy or in a loud environment. I can literally go into paragraphs upon paragraphs about some of my favourite songs. Just about what I like about them, how they make me feel, etc. I am always up for sharing or creating playlists with someone, I truly feel like music is one of the better ways to get to know someone. My usual genres end up to alternative, indie, and math rock, but I will really just listen to anything that I like the sound of.
Hobby wise, it sort of depends on what time of the year it is. If the weather is nice in the spring or summer, I love to go for long walks and hiking. Just being out in nature beings a sense of relaxation and peace you can't get anywhere else. Plus, the views, just all the amazing views and secrets you can come upon. When the weather is not as pleasant or it is winter (so quite a few months here), I am usually found being a homebody. Probably no surprise, but gaming is a major filler of my time when I have nothing else to do. My main game right now is FFXIV, realized today that I have been playing it for over half a decade at this point, how time flies. I do enjoy the Paradox Interactive games as well, especially with all the amazing mods some of them have. Like music, I could spend hours talking about some of my favourite games. Would also love more people to play with, generally not picky about what, as long as you don't mind me potentially sucking. Gaming with people is always such a joy and fun time. I can be quite the reader if a particular book or series catches my attention. Once burned through a trilogy in a week since it captivated me so much. One of the dangers I found with me reading is I'll always go for one more chapter, then suddenly it is 3 am. Don't really have any specific genres in particular, though I am quite the sucker for some good worldbuilding.
I could probably keep rambling about myself, but why take away all the fun? As said before, I am looking for someone to see what kind of connection we can build. Location wise, for something more than friendship, you would likely have to be in Canada or have plans to move here. While I do enjoy all my friends in the US, I have no desire to move there unfortunately. Either way, if I intrigued your interests feel free to send me a DM and we can connect from there!

I have the problem that MSI Center shows me a CPU (i5-13600) usage of 50% and 63 degree in idle mode. If I restart the system it will be at 0-1% at 38 degree, but will jump to 50% again after some time.
The really strange part is that if I open task manager it quickly goes down to 0% again (actually if I start task manager I can still see for a second the high CPU usage before it goes down.
I tried a complete virus search with Avira Antivirus (free version) and tried a system clean with ccleaner, but these also didn’t change the situation. I also uninstalled some apps which I am not sure what they are, but it also didn’t solve the problem.

I'm hoping to get a working holiday visa and am deciding if it'd be possible to teach during my stay... I'm in my late 20's, have a Master's degree in English, and I've been qualified since 2019 to teach English & French as a second language for grades 7-12 here in Ontario. (Although, I've only taught consistently for a year and a half).
I have no idea where to even start, so any suggestions and tips would be great!
(More info about me: I'm an artsy gal interested in local art/music/poetry readings, beautiful nature, meeting other young people. I'm not a big partiedrinker. And I'd like to avoid living suburbia (I won't have a car which might make things tricky but I don't mind public transport!), and super conservative spaces).
Some specific questions:

• I know there are agencies that set teachers up with placements, does anyone have any experience with this? Would it be better to apply on your own without the help of an agency?
• How is the workload? I've taught in Ontario and had a truly difficult time with the amount of work expected of a teacher after school. A lot of young (in their 20's) teachers joked with me that it's completely normal to routinely shed some tears in the evenings at home and work until you fall asleep... Ultimately, I'd like to have the time to also explore Australia too! :-)
• What does a school day look like? In Ontario, a school day is four 75 min periods. Teachers teach for 3 periods, and get one period to prep.
• Other tips? Pay? General experiences with behaviour? Is it more difficult to find high school jobs (than elementary)?

I was raised as child/teen/young adult in family that when to Pentecostal Holiness Church. I understand that there are a variety of sectors of beliefs that fall underneath this umbrella, so to provide a clearer understanding of my religious upbringing I have provided a list of common practices/beliefs that I was exposed to or experienced. Sins (that I considered not mainstream) included playing sports, wearing short sleeves, wearing makeup, wearing pants if you are female, wearing shorts, cutting your hair if you are female, going to amusement parks, owning a TV, listening to music that wasn’t Southern Gospel, watching movies/sports/TV shows/news, and attending sporting events. It was also frowned upon to have internet access or go to a public school, although I did go to public school and we also had internet access. Our religious practices included praying through until we believed we had achieved salvation (meaning you prayed until you believed god had forgiven you for all your past sins and that you promised God to never sin again and do what he asked of you). Another aspect of the religion was speaking in tongues. This is best described as a person praying until that person falls into a trance in which they will speak gibberish. To go to heaven, it was required to be saved while speaking in tongues was seen as more as a next level sort of thing. The Bible was taken literally, it was believed that individuals who failed to stick to this legalistic viewed where backsliders that would burn in a lake of fire for eternity. I had always been critical of the religion even when I still practiced it (I am very analytical by nature). After spending several years personally researching the history of the bible, cultures/beliefs of civilizations/peoples related to the bible/Christianity, psychology, and a variety of other topics; my belief in God collapsed. I will also point out; my goal was never to prove the religion wrong or right. I am a 26-year-old gay man with a love of history, so I naturally had a variety of questions to ask about the religion and actions of my fellow church members. It has been about 3 years since my I stopped attending Church. I have had time to reflect. I now believe that being raised in this religion had a massive impact on my development throughout my childhood, teenage, and young adult years. I was a naturally shy child with an overprotective mother. The list of things prohibited such as sports, music, and televisions provided a significant barrier to creating relationships with fellow peers throughout childhood. I had very little in common with them since I did not understand the subjects (sports, video games, movies, music, etc.) they spoke of. Furthermore not being allowed to participate in sports limited my options to develop risk taking and relationship building skills as a child and teen. While I do not believe the religion is to blame for all these struggles/shortcomings, I see it as a major contributing factor. It created/worsened many problems that I still struggle with to this day. I have recently noticed that my still religious brother and sister, seem to be having some problems psychologically. They seem to be struggling to create non-romantic and romantic relationships. They also are struggling significantly with their careers. They both seem to go through periods of depression on a regular basis. I personally believe that we missed a part of healthy/natural psychological development. I also believe you cannot force someone to give up their religious beliefs; It must be done organically. Being able to reflect on my upbringing and its affects has helped me create a happy healthy life over the last four years. Do I need to open up to my family about my observations/experience? I am starting to become extremely worried about my brother and sister.

I'm a 35 yo female who over the last decade or so have experienced extreme fatigue which has led to weight gain. Over the last 2 years chronic pain has worsened to the extreme and during what I call flares, my skin, muscles, and bones hurt, even on my upper extremities. I have not struggled with hand and Wrist pain and swelling until recently.
This year alone a cavitary lesion was discovered in my lung (undiagnosed, not malignant and not fungal), and I've been diagnosed with complex partial seizures with no history.
I get reoccurring eczema in the inside ankle in the same place at the same time my flares are very bad, and flares seem to be coinsiding with my menstrual cycle. I will run transient fevers and have my whole adult life. I've also had on rare occasions extreme swelling in my feet and face due to sun exposure.
10 years ago a huge muscinous borderline ovarian tumor was located. It was about 40lbs and removed surgically along with my appendix, ovary, and part of my omentom. When found they had to drain two liters of fluid from my chest.
I have childhood history of the following: SVT unknown cause Lazy eye Hips rotating inward and walked with my feet facing inward
My mother has severely progressed Rheumatoid Arthritis with symptom onset around my age.
My paternal aunt was just diagnosed with Marfans.
Pain averages 4-6 (baseline) and during flares it is dibilitating and no position is comfortable.
Tests are neg for lupus I could not mri but CT scan showed no signs of MS I was borderline and then neg RF (my mother has always had neg factor) I'm positive on the hypermobility scale (Ehlers Danlos) Inflamation markers are elevated.
Endocrinologist diagnosed me with hashimoto's thyroiditis, however being on meds for that for a couple months there is no difference to note.
Can anyone point me in the right direction for what I may be experiencing? And what are some things I can do to minimize symptoms. I know I need to get my weight down but it's a struggle with no energy and the pain.
Tia!

what can you advice a 17 years old dude live in third world country where people get paid 200$ a month , who's facing depression anxiety and nihilistic thoughts, who see himself worthless sub-human, i used to have goals i wanted to get a house in some peaceful place a work as a software developer trader and investor to make just enough living and spend just reading books for the rest of my life now i can't think about it at all i lost the motive to keep on life, i am losing my mind, my life is now messed up, it all started with massive anxiety wave for last couple years i almost survived, now i want to get back my old self, i can fight for what i want i used to enjoy it, nihilism totally fucked me up i barley wake up everyday for school i had a part time job and i got fired it's been almost a year since the last time i bought new clothes, i didn't care neither now most of the time i wake up to wear whatever i find clean in the closet i see no meaning in life and just wish i never wake up again, i am tragically discrepant.
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Hello. I recently started a new job back in November. I will say it’s significantly less stressful than my last job in the same field thankfully but it does still carry it’s own pressures and stress. I do however feel that I’m carrying some PTSD from my last job. My last job was incredibly high stress and while my new job is not that way necessarily I still feel anxious coming to work, for no real reason, I think it’s just a conditioned response from my last job.
I have to try really hard to not check work stuff when I’m at home. If I see something negative coming up in the week or even the next day I worry about it and can’t sleep. The answer to this is obvious: don’t check work stuff at home. However, I still get the same level of stressed out if I become aware of this stuff AT work as well and if I’m not able to deal with it immediately I will continue to be on my mind until I can.
Does anyone have an advice on not to take these dumb jobs so seriously?? Over all I’m a huge people pleaser. A lot of my job stress is knowing I’m meeting with a potential client that’s not happy or a client who’s just not a nice person at all and is on my schedule to see. I get bad cases of the Sunday scaries anticipating work on Monday even though I generally like my job very much.
I try and tell myself constantly that nothing is personal, even if they don’t like the product it’s nothing personal against me, my work life is only a small fraction of who I am as a person, and that nothing in life is this serious to let it effect my personal family time so much and I try and let it go.
Does anyone else have any favorite go to tips and mantras that work well for them for dealing with work stress?? I’d love to hear it!

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I (22F) have been with my boyfriend (26M) for almost 2 years now. Our relationship was tumultuous, we had a lot of highs and shitty lows. Got comfortable with each other pretty fast within the first few days of us meeting, and have not been able to spend a day apart since. Ever since we first started dating I couldn't shake the nagging feeling that I was going to get cheated on. I'm very spiritual, so I figured pretty early on that this nagging feeling was some trauma that I hadn't dissected - I always had a fear since I was a little girl that I was going to get cheated on.
Stupidly, I ignored it. And of course, like all emotions that are suppressed, it came out in a lot of different ways. I got triggered by little things that made me doubt how blindly I was trusting him. I always thought he was hiding something from me, to the point where I paid somebody to test him to see if he'd be loyal to me. He kind of passed, he wasn't entertaining her compliments, but he also never mentioned to her that he had a girlfriend - someone that he frequently referred to as his life partner. He ended up going through my phone shortly after I did this, and found out that I had tested him and almost broke up with me because I had "betrayed" him and that his "life partner" wouldn't do this to him.
At this point in us being together I genuinely thought I was the problem and seriously considered going to therapy, despite the fact that I always had to ask him who he was texting or who was around him when he went to parties, etc. I insisted for nearly the majority of our relationship for us to go to couples therapy, in hopes that we could dissect where this anxiety I was feeling was really coming from. He didn't want to go for a number of reasons, first it was money, and I offered to pay for half his portion, then it was about him not being mentally ready because his career was his priority. He also didn't do much to reassure me until after I had tested him, which I guess made him realize how insecure he had made me.
Things got better for a few weeks, but then he randomly started to get really sick. I personally think it was a combination of drinking too much (we go out nearly 4-5 times a week, and drink every night) and his anxiety. He's a hypochondriac, so this also severely affected our relationship, especially sexually. To try and make him feel better, I assured him that I'd be celibate and not please myself. I did everything I could to make him feel better. I told him I genuinely wasn't with him for the sex, I was there for who he was as a person. I validated his anxious thoughts and assured him to go to different doctors to see if everything was fine. After blood tests, urgent care/ER visits, etc, his liver levels were slightly abnormal, but despite knowing this, his anxiety was still really bad.
He had done everything and was still feeling off. He went to his mom and told her that he thinks he's unattracted to me. (Ouch). His mom said that before he ends it, he should try experimenting with another woman to see if he can feel a sexual spark. I found out that same night. A girl had messaged me with the proof. From my knowledge, they had only conversed for 2 hours and he blocked her after he realized that I was really the woman he wanted to be with. Funny enough, I had a dream that same morning that he was emotionally cheating on me. It's crazy to think I had a dream about it, and it happened that same night.
I stupidly decided to forgive him for a number of reasons. He had met my family, I had met his, I genuinely loved his family, I loved what we had built, both publically and privately. I figured it was something I could forgive, mainly because it wasn't physical, and him doing it made him realize how much he "really" loved me, and that he wasn't in the right state of mind because of how sick he was. But I didn't make it easy for him. Part of my dealbreaker was that he went to therapy and that he treated me better. I became triggered way more often over the most random things, and it usually ended up in me getting extremely angry at him, yelling at him, etc.
To make a long story short, I had another dream a few days ago, but it was about him physically cheating on me. He had woken me up but wasn't doing much to make me feel better. He tried kissing me and holding me but wasn't saying anything other than what happened. And when I did tell him, he still didn't say anything. I asked to see his phone and found a DM of him complimenting this black girl. He tells me that I should know how black women are when it comes to their hair and how much trauma they have behind it. I was too triggered. I couldn't handle the excuses, the bullshit, the manipulation, after how incredibly loyal and loving I was to him. The lack of reassurance. He tells me, "That's why half the time I feel like cutting you off."
Hearing him say that was my breaking point. Honestly, I feel like my breaking point should've been when I found out the first time, but who knows. I think I stayed for the next month after I first found out because I couldn't really process that someone I was revolving my whole life around would do something like that to me. And I needed to know that I did everything I could to save what we had. But this was too much.
It's only been a few days but I feel so lost and heartbroken. I can't really function, I feel so angry at the smallest things and I don't trust anyone anymore. I feel like I don't know how to live my life without him, and I know I'm just saying that because I'm mourning and I miss him. I know I'll be fine, I know I'm young, but I can't wrap my head around losing him.
He regularly uses reddit too, so he might see this, but I don't care anymore. I deserve so much more. It's just hard for me to process it all. We literally spent every single day together, slept with each other damn near almost every night. He's the love of my life, but he can't be after what he did to me.
TLDR: I (22F) broke up with my boyfriend (26M) because I had a dream he cheated on me

Can anyone point me to where to look/post? I'm aware of Upwork, Freelancer, LinkedIn, Twitter, and Discord. Job listing below as a reference:
I have a game that is built on Unity and runs on Windows that will need some modifications, such as adding new features and fixing bugs. If you are interested in this project, please send me a message with your portfolio and rates. Please mention past work and if you are able to work quickly and efficiently. Thank you for your time!

My wife owns a small professional services company with 1 full time employee (no benefits), and a few contractors.
Her mother is retiring for the most part but has indicated part-time work for my Wife’s company would be doable - This is great because as a business this small there are a lot of tedious tasks that are in the MIL’s wheelhouse that dont justify a full time employee.
My question is whether we should pay her as a 1099 or a part time employee.
It looks like an employee wouldnt have to pay taxes on income <$13k, which is probably what she would make the first year or 2. This looks like a better option for the MIL vs a 1099? Or does a part time employee imply we have a set, specific number of hours we need them to work each weekk?
My wife doesnt know how long many of the tasks will take each week (but no more than a 5-7 hours), and they’ll vary week to week.
On the other hand, 1099s get taxed on any income over $400.
Thoughts?

When I started a new job a couple of months ago I was amazed at how well I got along with my boss. We had so much in common that I felt she could have been a great friend if we had met outside of work. In the beginning we spent time talking about our shared fandoms, hobbies, gaming, and many other things.
Last month I left the honeymoon intro period of my job and began hitting a tough learning curve. Since then my boss has become more critical of my work. She is really focusing on my shortcomings and is more distant.
While the most important thing for me is to keep my job, I'm having trouble adjusting to the idea that my boss isn't my friend anymore. While a professional distance may be for the best, I can't help but miss the comradery.
I also wonder how I should respond. It's possible that she's just frustrated in the short term because of deadlines. In this case we may get back to being on better terms. It's also possible that she look back and think she accidentally became a bit too impartial to be a good boss. Part of me is also worried that her distance means she thinks she made a mistake hiring me, and she's being super critical to look for reasons to let me go. It's this last part that has me worried. I think I became too close to objectively think of her life a boss.

I'm 28 years old. I'm a business owner in a completely different sector, but I love this field so much to a level approaching an enthusiast. I just figured out how into this I was about a month ago and I've been diving into construction techniques, surveying, workspace test fits, load bearing structures, manpower reports, and more. I think what I love most is the procedures, engineering, best practices, and the grit of the workers doing this. Right now I'm studying for the Osha-30 certification and two forklift courses. I would love to be on a job site to just watch, learn, and ask questions but I have no experience to get a part time construction job and I don't know of any programs that would allow me to be close to the action and pester foremen and project managers with my questions
Any advice?

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I originally wrote a whole long sheet of stuff that was nicely formatted but then my browser crashed and I lost the entire draft. So we're going speedrun mode lol.
The pitch: I run a UPS Store and love TTRPGs. All UPS Stores are franchised and therefore I have some flexibility on pricing and discounts, which I wanted to offer to the indie scene. These copies would be best suited for playtest copies, proofs, pitches, and collectors who just want to see their work on their shelf.
The books would be coil bound and have a colored back cover and a clear plastic cover (laminated front/back covers are also possible if you've designed your own covers).
Paper options are: 20, 24, 28, 65, 80, and 100 pound weight. The best options for inner pages are 24 and 28 at the moment. I also carry text, gloss, and cover versions of a variety of weights. I could also order other paper weights if there is a general preference among everyone.
Shipping Options: All depends on how much you want to pay, but like any UPS Store I offer services through both UPS and the USPS.
Cost: Obviously the most important part. The formula for printing costs is a bit weird and bulk is applied to it (meaning the more pages you print, the cost per individual page is lowered), but here's where things start. The average cost per color page at The UPS Store is $0.69. Black and white is $0.25. Both of these prices are absolutely absurd. You wouldn't believe what it actually costs me for the paper, ink, and the lease for the printers. The margins on this stuff is insane.
So let's use an example: Let's say your book is 150 pages, printed on regular 8.5x11 28lb paper. I'd price things down to $0.12 per page, which comes to $18 per book. Binding is 0.02 per page, which is you got your book printed double-sided means you only used 75 physical pages, so that comes to $1.50.
So for a single book, at 150 color pages, you'd be looking at a total of $19.50. More books means more bulk pricing, which means less per unit, you get the deal.
Shipping discounts would run at a flat 30% discount within the continental US unless the order is HUGE, but that's a bridge I'll cross when I get to it. Anything outside of the 48 states would need an entirely separate quote.
I'm sure you will all have questions, and there are things I didn't think of ahead of time, so please ask them in the comments below.

I was raised as child/teen/young adult in family that when to Pentecostal Holiness Church. I understand that there are a variety of sectors of beliefs that fall underneath this umbrella, so to provide a clearer understanding of my religious upbringing I have provided a list of common practices/beliefs that I was exposed to or experienced. Sins (that I considered not mainstream) included playing sports, wearing short sleeves, wearing makeup, wearing pants if you are female, wearing shorts, cutting your hair if you are female, going to amusement parks, owning a TV, listening to music that wasn’t Southern Gospel, watching movies/sports/TV shows/news, and attending sporting events. It was also frowned upon to have internet access or go to a public school, although I did go to public school and we also had internet access. Our religious practices included praying through until we believed we had achieved salvation (meaning you prayed until you believed god had forgiven you for all your past sins and that you promised God to never sin again and do what he asked of you). Another aspect of the religion was speaking in tongues. This is best described as a person praying until that person falls into a trance in which they will speak gibberish. To go to heaven, it was required to be saved while speaking in tongues was seen as more as a next level sort of thing. The Bible was taken literally, it was believed that individuals who failed to stick to this legalistic viewed where backsliders that would burn in a lake of fire for eternity. I had always been critical of the religion even when I still practiced it (I am very analytical by nature). After spending several years personally researching the history of the bible, cultures/beliefs of civilizations/peoples related to the bible/Christianity, psychology, and a variety of other topics; my belief in God collapsed. I will also point out; my goal was never to prove the religion wrong or right. I am a 26-year-old gay man with a love of history, so I naturally had a variety of questions to ask about the religion and actions of my fellow church members. It has been about 3 years since my I stopped attending Church. I have had time to reflect. I now believe that being raised in this religion had a massive impact on my development throughout my childhood, teenage, and young adult years. I was a naturally shy child with an overprotective mother. The list of things prohibited such as sports, music, and televisions provided a significant barrier to creating relationships with fellow peers throughout childhood. I had very little in common with them since I did not understand the subjects (sports, video games, movies, music, etc.) they spoke of. Furthermore not being allowed to participate in sports limited my options to develop risk taking and relationship building skills as a child and teen. While I do not believe the religion is to blame for all these struggles/shortcomings, I see it as a major contributing factor. It created/worsened many problems that I still struggle with to this day. I have recently noticed that my still religious brother and sister, seem to be having some problems psychologically. They seem to be struggling to create non-romantic and romantic relationships. They also are struggling significantly with their careers. They both seem to go through periods of depression on a regular basis. I personally believe that we missed a part of healthy/natural psychological development. I also believe you cannot force someone to give up their religious beliefs; It must be done organically. Being able to reflect on my upbringing and its affects has helped me create a happy healthy life over the last four years. Do I need to open up to my family about my observations/experience? I am starting to become extremely worried about my brother and sister.

For a long time I used to be very distant from the furry community. I thought it was weird, cringey, etc. and my peers thought so as well. I didn’t want to be associated with it but I did enjoy some of the art (as well as the NSFW side) in secret. As the years have gone by, I became more open minded and tolerant and slowly started accepting that I might be a furry considering I had an appreciation for the art and cosplays people make though I told myself I’d never want to engage in the fandom. VR chat really made me realize I wanted to be a furry when I started to really interact with the people and saw all of the beautiful, cute, and cool avatars. Everyone was so welcoming and accepting and i had many great times in the furry servers. Now I’m so invested and want to be part of the community even more. But there’s one big problem… I don’t think I could ever openly be a furry… My family is very conservative and they already think me going to anime conventions is a bit strange, but they’ve excepted it. I’m fairly certain they would definitely draw the line at me being a furry, and I would forever be the weird kid that didn’t come out right. Some of my peers would be excepting, and a couple of them are kinda furries as well. But a good majority of my friends and even my girlfriend would probably think of me differently if I were to reveal, I was a furry. I tried to test the waters with my girlfriend, the other night by asking a silly hypothetical question of what her fursona might be, if she were a furry. She immediately shut it down and said she didn’t want to talk about furries. It broke my heart a little. So badly want to make a fur suit, openly draw furry art, and interact with the community on a more public level but I feel like I can’t tell anyone about being a furry except a couple specific friends and I’m terrified of anyone finding out. Does anyone have a similar experience? I feel so alone…